Solo Travel: Pros and Cons: 2002
Many people are reluctant or nervous to travel alone. Share your tips on traveling alone safely, economically...and without being lonely.
A week was NOT enough!
I just got back from a week in London. This was my first trip to the UK
and it was also my first solo trip. A week is not NEARLY long enough! Overall
it was a very positive experience. I have to agree with many of the previous
posts that mention dinner as the only drawback to solo travel. Dinner time
was the only time of the day when I really noticed that I was traveling
by myself. I would even sometimes skip dinner to alleviate this problem
(just eat a bigger breakfast the next day). But I was able to go to where
ever I wanted, whenever I wanted (assuming it was open). I didn't have to
haggle with a travel partner over which stops to make or how long to stay.
Since this was my first trip, I was rushing around trying to squeeze in
as many museums, historic sites, etc, that the only real regret that I have
is that I didn't spend more time talking with the locals. My advice to myself
on my next trip, and to anyone who has read this far: Don't shortcut yourself
on the people! The museums and historic sites are fantastic, however, the
people are the flavor of a city or region. Without this flavor, all you
have is a collection of cold, postcard-picture memories which could have
just as easily been extracted from a travel book at your local library.
But have fun and don?t be shy about traveling alone! J.
John
Springfield, IL USA Thu 11/28/2002
First-Time Female Visitors to Europe
If you are a single woman visiting Europe for the first time, I would recommend
starting off your trip in England, as that enables you to experience things
European without any language barrier, or having to decipher signs you can't
read. If you are concerned about your safety, the Home Away From Home Club
provides safe, low-cost accommodation for single women in private bedrooms
in a private house in Britain..(You even get to pick which room you want
to use!) The Club's house is located in a "backdoor" town (with its own
castle) less than one hour from London by train (frequent trains), with
frequent local buses to the town center/railway station - you do not need
to have a car. (The local neighborhood shops, plus a library with free internet
access, are within walking distance.) However, as the accommodation is only
available to club members, you do have to join the Club and pay the US$20
annual membership fee. But not only is this much safer (and far more private)
than staying in a Youth Hostel, the Club charges less per night than a Youth
Hostel (plus discounts for a second and third woman inn the same party).
This is a great way to start your European trip, especially if you are a
woman traveling alone to Europe for the first time. (For more details, see
my posting on the Graffiti Wall under "Alternative Accommodation.")
D. Flurrie
Philadelphia, PA USA Sun 11/17/2002
Traveling Solo
I don't think there is such thing as solo travelling (unless you want it
that way). Since 1972, when I was 22, I've been traveling all over the world
by myself most of the time. I just love it. You get to know new people from
many different countries and some of them become good friends. I love traveling
without specific plans, and lately, as I have found some very reasonably
priced tours, I have taken a few. I have always found nice people on the
tours, and I have shared my room with complete same-sex strangers in order
to cut expenses. It has always been a nice experience. I would say that
in great part it depends on your attitude and how flexible you are. By the
way, I am planning to go to the United Kingdom in April with Cosmos tours.
I traveled with Cosmos two years ago, combining a tour to Greece and one
to Turkey. If you are traveling by yourself and don't mind sharing a room
with a same-sex person, Cosmos has what they call "guaranteed share". If
they don't find a partner for you, you do not pay the single room supplement,
but you have the room to yourself. Happy traveling! Daisy
Daisy
Lees Summit, MO USA Wed 11/06/2002
Alone in Germany
I am a 62 year old widow who returned last month from 2 weeks in Germany.
Not only did I travel alone, I planned the entire trip myself -- and I wouldn't
have changed a thing! I flew into Frankfurt, took the Romantic Road bus
to Fussen with an overnight in Rothenberg. I adored both places and walked
my legs off. The hotels were "Rick's recommendations" -- Klosterstuble in
Rothenberg and Kurcafe in Fussen -- excellent places! I did the castles
(in the rain and in the sunshine) and met so many people while hiking, stopping
for a hot wine, or just taking pictures. Dining alone doesn't bother me,
mainly because it almost never happens -- either you are seated at or next
to a table with other diners and first thing you know, you are in conversation,
whether you speak the language or not. From Fussen I took the train to Munich
where I spent 4 days during Oktoberfest. The train ride was very interesting
as 5 locals in Bavarian attire sat with me. One fellow could speak English,
so we talked about the political and cultural differences in our countries.
He also told me the best beer hall to go to at Oktoberfest -- Augustiner!!I
stayed at Hotel Uhland and I can't say enough good things about this hotel
- it was just precious and the location for Oktoberfest perfect! If anyone
has not been to this event, pleeeeease make it a must on your list. I have
NEVER seen anything like it. And to see 100's of 1,000's of people together,
happily drinking and eating with no fighting, was truly amazing and enjoyable.
And the grounds reminded me of Disneyland - very clean in spite of the enormous
crowds. I always feel safe in Europe - I can go out in the evening and never
think twice about it. At home, I would never do this -- what a shame.
Naomi
Spokane, WA USA Mon 11/04/2002
Meeting People
I would like to make a comment about meeting people when traveling solo.
I am a recent widower (63 yo) and decided to go away on my own to think
about my new life without my wife of 35 years. Although this is primarily
a Europe board, I believe my experince would be true anywhere. I traveled
alone to the Cook Islands a few weeks ago. Within two hours i had met a
couple (He-Dutch expatriate and she-French canadian expatriate) who were
setting up an accomodation on one of the many islands comprising the Cooks.
I had dinner at their home. Lunch with them and we attended several "Island
Night" shows, one of which was a high school competition and the other was
alocal sports fund raiser party. I also found that the gardener who cared
for my place was a wonderful guy. We shared beers and he showed me how to
break open a coconut. All this and more and I'm just an older guy traveling
alone!
Doug
Arcadia, CA USA Thu 10/31/2002
Books - Traveling solo
For women considering traveling alone: For gaining additional inspiration
or adding starch to your backbone, read Rita Golden Gelman's Tales of a
Female Nomad - Living at Large in the World. *Don't* read it before going
on a trip with 25 other folks -- even if they're the nicest folks in the
world!
Carol
Columbus, OH USA Wed 10/30/2002
Solo Travel: Pros and Cons
I traveled alone for the first time when I was in my early 30's after having
decided I'd never get anywhere if I had to wait to find someone with the
same interests, vacation time, etc. My first trip was a drive down the CA
coast from San Francisco to LA - I met so many wonderful people and saw
so many "new to me" things that I couldn't wait to try this again. Next
trip was a 3 week trip to New Zealand, where I again rented cars to explore
both islands. Stopped over in French Polynesia on the way over to NS and
spent a few days in Maui on the way back. Everything was PERFECT! On my
next trip to London and the Yorkshire countryside, I actually had gotten
up enough nerve to "crash" a tour group's dinner so I could find out where
to go and meet James Herriot (the author who was at the height of his popularity
at that time. I met and spent time with him the following day! On a drive
through the Pacific Northwest I decided to see the town where the tv series,
"Northern Exposure" was filmed (my all time favorite show!). By talking
to people and being persistent, I managed to become a paid "extra" on the
set the next day, had lunch with all the cast, etc. These are only a couple
highlights of my now 20 years of solo traveling! Have met so many great
people along the way, and have many wonderful memories. Go for it! If I
can help anyone considering traveling alone in any way, please e-mail me.
Happy Trails!
Judith Beck
Perkasie, PA USA Wed 10/23/2002
My experience travelling solo
This summer I visited 11 European countries in 2 mos backpacking on my own.
This includes Italy, Spain, Portugal, and the Czech Republic. Now I'm 4'8" tall and it was my first trip to Europe - it's safe to say I had reservations
about it at first.
But I had an overall amazing time. As a budget traveler sleeping in hostels, you meet all sorts of people from all over the place, as a rail pass traveler you meet locals galore on the trains, and as grocery store eater (mostly) and self caterer (yay hostel kitchens) dining alone was never a problem as it was either a time to reflect and people watch or socialise with whomever was around. I went to visit other travellers I had met on the road in their home country - on their farm, had a wonderful evening being toured around an Irish town by a stranger I had met on the train, had supper in a Spanish restaurant kitchen late at night with the family that owned it, floated down a river in rural Bohemia with my hostel roomates learning songs in different langauges, discussed destinations with business travelers on cheap flights, exchanged snacks with kids and parents on the train, met plenty of pet owners (I was an astute victim of "missing my dog" syndrome). Best of all it was all on my own schedule.
Downsides:
A. McMullen
Vancouver, BC Canada Fri 10/18/2002
women solo
when i used to tell people i was going to Europe by myself for a month they
would give me that " are you crazy?" look and ask me if i was scared. personaly
i always thought it sounded like tons of fun and had no clue what everyone
else was afraid of. Of corse i understand what everyone else was so concerned
about, i'm female, fresh out of high school, and had never really been to
a big city before in my life. i think it's safe to say that if i can travel
solo, anyone can, and i never regreted it. you will have so much fun going
by yourself, it gives you opertunities to get to know yourself and grow
in ways you can't even dream of. don't be afraid because you don't know
anyone, friends are very easy to make, and some of my best memories are
of sitting down and having a drink with a random group of strangers. it
also lets you be open and yourself with peopole because chances are you'll
never see them again anyway. just be cautious, friendly, and well prepared,
and you'll have the time of your life
allison
sun city, ca USA Thu 10/17/2002
Traveling Solo...but not really
Don't fear solo travel. I took a 3 month trip to western Europe "Technically" alone, but never really was alone the whole trip. For those of you who will
do the Eurail, backpack, hostel thing solo...have no fear. I ALWAYS met
people either on the trains, in the train stations, on buses and in subways,
or in hostels. It is so easy, and I am a somewhat shy type person. The big
icebreaker into a conversation with other backpackers/hostellers/travellers,is
to ask: so, where are you from? And from that point on the conversation
takes on a life of its own. Often times you'll talk about where you're from,
why you are travelling, how long you are travelling, where you are going/staying
etc, etc.... I now have friends I will keep in touch with via phone and
the internet, all over Europe (I'm American, and they are travellers from
various parts of Europe) whom I will visit next time I go abroad to Europe.
I will also reciprocate when they visit the U.S. So, don't be afraid to
travel solo if you fear lonliness because chances are you will meet many
people to travel with along the way.
Thomas
Washington, DC USA Fri 10/04/2002
Solo travel
Have very much enjoyed reading the comments and tips on this board. Once
I made the decision that I wanted to stop waiting to see the places I have
always dreamt of, I was on my way.
The best way for me to get my feet wet was to join a tour. It has its limitations, but meeting new friends is not one of them. I started with a trip to Provence a few years ago. The actual flights and connections were accomplished on my own, but when I met my group in Aix the rest of the trip was easy. And terrific fun.
My only preparation for dining solo was to make weekly trips into New York City (about an hour from home), tour a neighborhood, see a show and then find a wonderful place to have dinner. As others have said, it gets easier with a little practice, and now I really enjoy it. I love to eavesdrop, sometimes, or make plans for the following day. If there are restaurants that serve at the bar, it can be a very pleasant and convivial experience, although I have found it helpful to have a paper to study (with anything on it) if you want to avoid chit-chat. Attitudes may differ toward solo female diners elsewhere, but I have never been turned away from a restaurant that had space available in New York. I would be aghast to have the experience of bluntly being bounced from a place as was expressed in another post, but even those unpleasant moments give you a little more moxie.
The only time I travelled with an acquaintence was to Spain last fall, and it turned out to be a terrible mistake. We were acutely mismatched and after three mighty unpleasant days we agreed without discussion to go in separate orbits. I really prefer the freedom of not having to negotiate every move, and I find it much easier to be availble to meeting new people when I am unattached. I have made friends on each trip with whom I keep in constant touch, a real bonus.
After visits to Cuba and to Thailand this year,
I am ready to take the plunge and REALLY travel on my own; plan the itinerary,
the transportation and lodging. I have been encouraged by many of the
tips that I see here, and believe that thorough preparation is the secret
to low-stress travel. It will be Paris in the spring, then.
Deb
Monmouth Beach, NJ USA Thu 08/29/2002
Solo Travel Can Be Great Fun
I am enjoying this forum and am glad to see that I'm not the only one out
there who travels solo and loves it. It has always been a dream of mine
to see as much of the world as I can. But whenever I tried to get someone
to go with me I got the usual excuses, I can't leave the husband and kids,
I have no money, I don't like to fly. One day it finally dawned on me that
if I wait on people to take a vacation then I was going to be waiting a
long time. That's when I decided to take the plunge and go on a trip by
myself.
Six years later my solo travels have taken me all over the U.S. and Canada, London (3 times), Paris, Barcelona, Madrid, Sevilla, Edinburgh and Glasgow. I have to say that based on my experiences, I now much more prefer to travel solo than with others. I like that I can do what I want, whenever I want, and that I am much more open to experience the local culture and people one on one.
Dining can definitely be the most awkward part of solo travel, but as with most things in life the more you do it, the less bothersome it becomes. I second the post that recommended having lunch as the sit-down meal of the day as a way to get your feet wet. With travel dining, if you smile and say hello (or the local greeting), most restaurant staff will go out of their way to make sure your meal is pleasant. For instance I've gotten desserts and glasses of wine on the house, and once a house chef at a popular restaurant in Barcelona brought out my entree that he prepared personally and came back a short time later to see if I enjoyed it. You also might have the opportunity to share a meal with some great people. I was almost turned away from a small Greek restaurant in Edinburgh because there were no more tables, but a group of people who were seated moments before invited me to sit with them. I had a great time.
If you're thinking about taking a solo trip but find the idea scary, why not start small by taking a long weekend at a nearby big city, shore town or ski resort? There's enough distance that you can get away from it all, but close enough to home if you're not enjoying yourself.
I hope the day will come when women traveling solo
isn't considered an unusual thing, but what people think or say about
it isn't going to slow me down. Right now I'm planning a solo trip to
Bermuda for New Year's, and I can't wait to go.
Michele
Philadelphia, PA USA Wed 08/28/2002
Dining Solo
I took my first solo trip outside the USA to London last year and loved
it. Several folks have had issues about dining alone, as I did when I started.
I found making lunch my main meal worked best for me. It seemed many places
were more will and able to deal with a single diner at lunch than at dinner.
Also, I found that the cafes in the larger churches (such as Cafe in the
Crypt at St. Martins in the Fields) were great for cheap, quick and decent
meals. They also were good for vegetarian options. I' m off for my 2 week
trip to Rome, Italy. I hope it goes as well.
Kristina
Schenectady, NY USA Thu 08/22/2002
Travelling solo in the UK and Paris
I just returned from my first trip to Europe. I spent three weeks travelling
by train around the UK (Edinburgh, York, Bath, London). This was the first
time I had travelled alone as well. I never thought I could, but I just
got tired of waiting around to find someone who wanted to do "my" vacation.
It was the best decision I ever made. I am something of an "Anglophile",
and I know I would not have been able to see as much of the more specialized
sights and attractions with a companion.
The two main concerns of first time solo travellers are loneliness and vulnerability. In regard to loneliness, it can be a little isolating at times, and I'm rather introverted by nature. However, international phone cards are rather cheap (e.g. 5 British pounds for 208 minutes to Canada), so your friends and family are never far away. Also, if you work in some organized tours, you will undoubtedly meet other single travellers to chat with for the day, and then you can decide if you want to meet up again, or continue to go it alone. Rather than think about how "alone" I was, I chose to enjoy my peace and solitude.
Vulnerability is another issue. This is what all your friends and family members are thinking of when they tell you how crazy you are to travel alone. The best advice is to do your research. I planned, researched, and booked the majority of my trip (rail, accommodation, tours) online. I can't stress how important it is when you are travelling alone to have some background knowledge. When you walk out of the train station and you know that your B&B is 1 block north, and then 4 blocks west, you have much less to be worried about. I also recommend booking in advance, for the same reason.
Take one of those hop-on, hop-off tours if possible in each city. They help to give you your bearings. Get yourself an inconspicuous map (i.e. small) and move off to the side away from the crowds when you are reading it. I found that I didn't feel nervous or vulnerable anywhere because I was confident about what I was doing and where I was going. I was often mistaken for a local (until I spoke). By the time I left London, I was giving directions to people on the street!
The only difficulty I had was at dinner. One time in each city, I was not treated well, I believe, because I was alone, and would be taking up a table for 2 or 4 people. This was a little disheartening, but I just had to spend a few minutes more "sizing up" an establishment.
Overall, I had a fantastic time on my trip. Of
course, it would have been great if I had another like-minded person to
do everything I wanted to do. It IS a lot of work making all the decisions,
without having someone else to confer with on whether you are going the
right way, pronouncing French correctly, or finding the best buy. When
you travel alone, you never get a break from being in charge, and that
can be tiring. Luckily, no one can accuse you of being bossy! I must say
I have a great feeling of satisfaction knowing that I did it all by myself
(not "alone"). I'm already planning another solo trip to the UK for next
year!
TCB
Canada Mon 08/19/2002
Dining Solo
Even though I love travelling solo, dining out by myself sometimes intimidated
me...I did eat at a nice place near the Galeries Lafayette store (forgot
the name), that was fancy, even though I ordered pizza and sat in the window!
Great! In London I was stuck way down in Earl's Court, and instead of a
pub, I went to Pizza Hut (hey, I figured it's in England, why not?) three
times and was treated to a nice table with no attitude. I loved their salad
buffet and all were really nice to me.
USA Mon 08/19/2002
GERMANY FOR YOUTH
Solo travel to Germany is the best way to go. I visited 9 German cities
in 3 weeks.So here are my tips for all the fellow (young) backpackers across
the world. Obtain the following before you leave the USA:
1.A German Youth Railpass,which allows 4-10 days in 1 month for a very economical cost.
2.A HI Card,and a Int'l Student ID Card.They cost around $20.00-$25.00 each and the HI Card gets you discounts on hostels of $2.00 a night.The ISIC Card gets you many discounts on sights and museums,etc.
3.Airline ticket.Either be a courier or go to www.priceline.com for very cheap airfares.I flew from Chicago to Frankurt for $500.00 R/T.
I went to Europe with just a daypack,and if you can I highly reccomend it.Also don't be afraid to travel alone.I guarantee it will be much more rewarding.German is suprisingly quite simple to learn,seeing as how English is a Germanic language.It is highly advisable to at least learn enough to get by.Buy the expensive things for your trip in the US,and buy the little things in Europe.In the Summer wear sandals.Go "commando" style also.
Now when in Germany,try to observe these things:
Stay in youth hostels.They are very affordable ranging in price from $13.00-$20.00 a night.
Buy City Cards,because you are going to have to get around the cities you visit.I spent an average of 2 days in each city.So these cards cost anywhere from $7.00-$15.00 for 2 days(depending on the city),and offer free unlimited city transportation,and discounts on certain museums and other things.
As far as eating is concerned,I only spent an average of $10.00-$15.00 a day on food.Most times breakfast is included with the youth hostel price,and for lunch,if a university is near by,eat at their cafeteria.It only costs $2.00-$3.00 most times.For dinner or snacks head to the store,or to a cheap restraunt.Remember to eat high fiber,and also to eat yogurt,cheese,meat,grain,etc.
Allow yourself to only see 3-5 major sights in one day.This will allow you to be less exhausted each day.I visited Frankfurt/Main,K?ln,D?sseldorf,Hamburg,Hannover,Berlin,Dresden,M?nchen,and Stuttgart.When visiting sights,especially in the Summer either go very early morning,or late evening to avoid the crowds.
Also use common sense and instinct to avoid pickpocketing.I had no trouble in Germany at all.In fact it was like being in my hometown,I didn't worry about losing my money at all.
Above all have fun and enjoy your journey.And also
Viel Spa? un Viel Gl?ck!
Eric Dykstra
Grand Rapids, MI USA Sun 08/18/2002
DINING ALONE
Just been to a Japanese restuarant Wazamama in South King Street, Dublin.
This is very suitable for dining alone. There are lots of long tables and
the waiter brings you along to one where there is a free space. It is a
no smoking, positive living restaurant with very healthy type food although
not vegetarian and stays open late. It also has four restaurants in London
and one in Amsterdam.
Ann Connolly
Dublin, Ireland Sun 08/18/2002
DINING ALONE
It would be great if solo travellers mentioned where they felt comfortable
dining alone and the rest of us could note them and who knows maybe meet
other solo travellers in these restaurants. Also any places to stay which
are particularly friendly for solo travellers could be mentioned.
In Ireland solo diners will find lots of pubs doing "pub grub" and these are very suitable for dining alone. There are a few restaurants which have long communal tables which are really suitable for dining alone. Will check them out and report back.
There is a vegetarian restaurant Cornucopia, Wicklow
Street, Dublin which stays open until 8.30 p.m. and is very suitable for
the solo diner.
Ann Connolly
Dublin, Ireland Sun 08/18/2002
Dining alone
I, too failed to check this board before my first trip abroad - solo. I
still don't see the answer to eating alone here, though. I will say that
Rick Steve's recommendation of "Riz Razz" in Copenhagen is the best for
eating alone and for value - for under $12 you can get an all-you-can eat
vegetarian Mediteranian buffet and a glass of wine. It's casual has good
hours and I didn't feel self-conscious eating and writing in my journal
for a few hours. If anyone has a suggestion for a way to find or organize
dinner companions while traveling abroad, that would be great.
Debbie
Chicago, IL USA Tue 08/13/2002
Dining Alone
I wish I'd found this board BEFORE my trip to Paris! Anyway, travelling
solo to this romantic city can be a tad depressing at times, but overall
I had no major problems as a single female traveller. The only time I was
harassed was one afternoon in the Place de Concorde, when I was reading
my guidebook and leaning against a wall, when a man sidled up to me and
persistently asked, "Are you French? American? Parlez vous Francais?" and
wouldn't take no for an answer. Other than a couple of other "interactions" with panhandlers and other unsavory types, I wasn't bothered at all.
One complaint, though: I walked into a Rick Steves' recommended restaurant on Ile St. Louis in Paris, named "La Castafiore." Holding up my thumb to indicate a solo diner, I asked for a table. The maitre 'd rudely and loudly said from across the restaurant, "Non," leaving me standing there alone and mortified in front of the other diners. I have NEVER been denied a seat in a restaurant, in the U.S. or abroad, because of dining alone. I should note the place was only half full. Clearly, he didn't want to "waste" a table for two on a single diner. So, I walked out with as much dignity as I could muster and ate elsewhere that night.
Other than this experience, I have nothing but
positive things to say about travelling solo. Go for it!
Diana Lombardo
Melrose, MA USA Fri 08/09/2002
Eating Solo
Traveling solo doesn't have to mean always eating alone. If you can find
a busy cafe, take the last table and tell the waiter you will gladly share
the table. Last year in LaPaz Bolivia I met a very friendly couple from
Europe, we had wonderful dinner and conversation.
Scott
Mukilteo, WA USA Tue 08/06/2002
Eating alone!!!
Yes, I agree, eating alone is not enjoyable, however, it's the ONLY drawback
of traveling alone I can find. During the day while sightseeing it's not
a big deal as I usually grab something that I can eat while walking. Dinner
would be much more pleasurable if I had someone to share the days events
with but I've found that by the time I sit down to a relaxing dinner in
a cafe or family restaurant that my mind and body are so worn out that I
don't mind all that much.
Being a single female it can be unnerving to be alone while eating but
I've also found that it sometimes can be a benefit. I've had a waiter
or two bring me an extra glass of wine at no charge, and I've also had
the pleasure of an owner offer me advise on what is recommended (usually
by pointing!) and then making sure I was well taken care of for the evening.
Just sit down with a smile on your face, a look of "I'm so happy to be
here" and be polite and you'd be amazed! This doesn't always happen, but
when it does, it makes up for that lonely feeling. Look at it this way....at
the most it's a couple hours a day feeling uncomfortable in what should
be a full day of adventures and wonderful sites. I can live with that!
CR
Atlanta, Ga USA Tue 08/06/2002
Dinner Alone is Lonely
Solo travel is wonderful! The worst time for me is eating dinner alone.
During the day I have no problem eating with others or by myself as it is
more casual. At night, however, I feel very awkward, shy, and conspicuous.
Yes, I can bring a book, journal, or just savor my dinner alone, but it's
not the same. I have missed many opportunities by skipping dinner most evenings,
also saving many calories and some money. I admire those of you who are
not bothered by this.
pc
Sacramento, CA USA Tue 08/06/2002
Great!
I found solo travelling inspiring, stimulating and a great way to meet new
people. Let's face it, if you go with a friend or partner you never get
out of your comfort zone and really make an effort to meet new people.
Rebecca Smith
Santa Monica, USA Mon 08/05/2002
first time...and by myself :-)
Well - it's my first trip and I'm going solo, too. And, it all happen for
me after a break up and I wanted to do something for myself that was really
just for me...so, off to Italy I go. I couldn't be more excited (and nervous!)
I have a hard enough time going out by myself in my own neighborhood...and
now, I have to do it in Roma??? How do I get myself in to situations like
this..?
linda
San Diego, ca USA Mon 08/05/2002
Solo Travel
If you have any doubts about traveling to Europe alone, DON'T. I have been
traveling through Ireland, England, Belgium, Netherlands, Germany, France,
Switzerland and now Italy by myself for over a month and it has been the
best experience of my life. I was very very nervous to go on this trip before
I left the States, but in all honesty I could never imagine the people I
have met and the places I have seen and I have a vivid imagination. Everywhere
you will find people that are willing to help you, whether it is with directions,
reservations, the train, anything. As always and everywhere there are not-so-nice
people, but just ignore them and remember that the considerate and helpful
and happy to help people far outnumber them. There have been a few times
when I almost broke down through my own mistakes and the misinformation
of those that SHOULD have known, but there was alway and I mean ALWAYS someone
to help. When I see tourists struggling in Boston I volunteer to help and
I have gotten some extremely genuine appreciation from German tourists lost
on the T when I ask them in their own language if they need help. Good Karma!
Learn some of the languages of the countries you will visit and not only
will you get better service and more help, but you experience alot more
of the place that you are visiting. It's also very very fun. Keep your wits
about you and learn to be independent and you will have no problems and
don't be afraid to ask. Remember that please and thank you go a long way
even if that's the only words you know. Jump in, have fun and make LOADS
of wonderful memories for yourself. If I can do it, so can you. Ciao from
Roma Sue
suzie
Boston, MA USA Thu 07/25/2002
Sara's solo trip
Sara, you've made a wise decision to go ahead and go! It will be a little
nerve racking right before the plane lands. You'll more than likely say
to yourself "what am I doing" but once you get off that plane and start
the "adventure" you will have a great time. Just remember, you are your
own best friend and just soak up and enjoy every second. I'm planning my
third solo trip for next spring and am counting the time until I leave.
Remember to use good common sense, wear your money belt and you'll have
the time of your life!
CR
Atlanta, GA USA Thu 07/25/2002
Solo In France
I planned to visit France for two weeks in October with my boyfriend and
two friends. For various reasons, all three had to back out of the trip
and I was left with the decision to go alone or stay at home. I was a little
apprehensive about the idea of solo travel, so I was happy to read about
all of the positive experiences that people have had traveling solo. Now
that I am in the actual process of planning the trip (I just received my
plane ticket two days ago!) I can't believe that I ever considered not going.
Thanks to everyone who posted their remarks...you went a long way towards
bolstering my confidence!
Sara
Milwaukee, WI USA Wed 07/24/2002
Solo Travel
I had a marvelous time in London (April 2002). I was afraid that I might
be an obvious target because I was traveling alone. I have never felt so
comfortable like did in London.The ease in which I moved through the city
was wonderful. I felt like a Englishman and not a tourist. I enjoyed traveling
by myself. The pros of traveling solo is the time factor. You can decide
how long or short a time to stay at any one place. I think because I had
no traveling partner I saw a lot more things. The downside of solo traveling
is not having someone to take pictures with you in it. I am planning another
European trip next spring. Anyone considering solo traveling just make the
step and you will not regret it.
Denise
Miami, Fl USA Sat 07/20/2002
I Agree, Ivy!
This is to Ivy (below) and to all women out there. I went to Paris and the
UK by myself for 5 weeks in 1999, and had a great time! I had no hassles,
but did experience a bit of discrimination in Cambridge, of all places.
Before I left, ALL the women in my office kept telling me, 'Oh I don't know
how you do it, I could never do that, I need my husband', ad nauseum. My
reply was always, "Hey, there are women over there who LIVE alone, so what's
the big deal about travelling alone? Be different and be damned? I never
thought of myself as 'a woman travelling alone;' I loved it! I met & talked
to more people than the couples I met, and didn't have to worry about pleasing
someone else! If I wanted to run all over the city I could, as well as sleep
in, daydream, write, take photos, etc. As in anything, just use wisdom,
and be prepared!
C
CA USA Thu 07/18/2002
10 days solo in England
I recently travelled solo to England from the U.S., and cannot tell you
how many people expressed surprise when I told them I was doing it. They
were all impressed. I had a great time! I met wonderful people, from the
U.K. as well as the U.S. I was aprehensive before I left, having never travelled
solo before. I must admit that I met up with a small prearranged travel
group for the beginning portion of my trip. But the last portion, I was
completely on my own in London for 3 - 4 days. Even though it was my first
visit to England, I never felt ill-at-ease. In fact, people were really
eager to help, chat, etc. I would recommend it to anyone.
Jackie
Orlando, FL USA Fri 07/12/2002
Just Back From Italy
Hey Everyone! Just Back from 2 weeks in Italy and I had the best time of
my life. Don't listen to what people say, especially all the women out there.
Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to women travelling alone as opposed
to men. Women are treated and viewed differently which really blows!!! When
I had dinner by myself in Venice, a couple of American chicks were having
dinner at another table and kept staring at me and smiling at me. Then one
of them says, Oh, I used to do that, have dinner by myself before I got
married. Like what I was doing was such a big deal.
I had a ball travelling by myself and I met so many great people who
I plan to stay in touch with. It was great hanging out with new people
and then splitting up later on to do things by myself. Don't worry about
being lonely because you are going to be too tired to think about it,
I was. Also, I didn't have any problems while I was travelling. If you
have street smarts I think you will be fine. I felt right at home in Rome
which reminded me of NYC. My family and friends were worried about me
because I'm so tiny. I'm only 5'0 but I assured them that I make up for
my height in attitude! So, go and have a great time. I'm already planning
my next trip which will be to Spain. Happy travels.
Ivy
Little Falls, NJ USA Mon 07/01/2002
Soloroaming
Solo travel isn't that bad because the only person to argue with is yourself.
You do what YOU want to do when YOU want to do it. If you want to sit in
a park and enjoy a beer for an hour you dont have to worry about the person
you are with having other plans. When I was 22 I travelled through Europe
for 3 and a half months all by myself through 7 different countries and
I didn't have a problem at all. I have also gone back several times and
now I live in Copenhagen. I am a male from a big city and believe me it
does help to have street smarts.
Here are some rules for travelling alone.
1. Don't trust random people. Especially if you don't speak the language. The majority of Europeans are trustworthy and genuine people. But there are many crooks as well. They have had many more years than us to develop and perfect their scams.
2. Travel light. On my travels I have seen scores of Eurailers with huge backpacks and I can't help but laugh because I know that they are going to hate that bag. Half the things that they thought they might use will get sent back real soon.
3. Go where the locals go. I can't stress this enough. If you want to see the real culture of the country you are in, go where the people that make the culture are. Not to mention that the food is cheaper and better.
4. Learn as much of the local language as possible. Its just the nice thing to do and you feel like you become more of a part of the country. You get treated better as well.
5. Very important. Toilets are labeled WC. The first couple days I was there I almost had a few accidents looking for a bathroom, when I had walked past a room labeled WC about 20 times.
6. Try to get as lost as possible. Not too lost but lost enough. You will find little neighborhoods and areas of town that will have you in awe. Renting a bike is real good for this.
If you get lonely buy a cheap INTERNATIONAL phone card (the local phone cards charge you an arm and a leg for international calls.) and call your freinds or family back home. You cannot imagine how much better thins will make you feel. Mind the time difference.
All in all, enjoy yourself and be aware of your
surroundings and keep an eye on your things at all times.
Robert
SanFrancisco/CopenhagenDenmark, USA Fri 06/21/2002
One is always better than more
Just returned from a whirlwind 30-day adventure in Europe. This is my third
trip to Europe, but my first time with a travel companion. Overall, my conclusion
is this: If you spend so much time, resources, money and energy in the planning
and "doing" of a trip, you will resent having to make compromises - which
you ultimately do when you travel with someone. My advice: Travel solo!
It's the best advice I could ever give anyone going abroad!
Marilyn
Honolulu, HI USA Thu 06/13/2002
Solo Travel
At first, I was very nervous about traveling alone in Europe. When I was
first in London, it was "This sucks!". But when I got into Europe, I started
to meet all kinds of people and I was never alone. Of course there will
be days, when you just want your space and chill out. I did that in Berlin
because I was partied out from Krakow. This year I'm going to meet a friend
in Pamplona and another in Dusseldorf, Germany while traveling by myself.
Don't worry about traveling by yourself, it's a great experience.
Denmark
Del Mar, CA USA Sun 06/09/2002
My experience
I've traveled solo and had no problem. I was 19 at the time and had no clue
what I was doing but met people everywhere. I met some Americans within
5 minutes of starting my trip and was barely alone for more than a day during
the whole trip.
However, here's what I learned:
1. Solo women in Italy get treated like complete crap. I don't think it's worth the aggravation so find yourself a nice guy and hang on to him while you're in Italy. It?s not just the men you?ll have a problem with either. The women will be jealous of the attention you?re getting and will shun you as well.
2. If you drink too much you risk a lot. I did it and didn't think twice but I was lucky that those with me didn't rob me when I passed out and took care of me when I got too drunk. You'll meet good friends so I suppose you shouldn't expect anything less, but what if the people you do meet aren't as nice? I woke up on more than one occasion in a situation where all my belongings could have been stolen.
3. Standing in long lines is a lot easier with a partner.
4. When you get off a train it's nice to have partners to split off and find information, exchange money, guard your gear, find a locker etc. This is difficult when you're alone. It is doable though. It just costs you a backache and time. Don?t take too much luggage. It?s tough to carry and it?s better to wash often or buy your clothes as you go.
5. Staying in hostels is a must if you travel alone. Sometimes however it's nice to be able to stay in a hotel where there is no curfew and this isn't practical if you're alone. If you're traveling solo and you stay in a hostel, find one without a curfew or you'll regret it when you meet that gorgeous girl that wants to spend the whole night dancing.
6. Sometimes you'll meet people who you really don't want to travel with but somehow you're stuck with them. Be prepared to ditch people that aren't to your liking. I don't care if it's not the nicest thing to do. Ditch them before you've wasted anymore time and find someone else. It?s your trip!
7. Traveling with Americans is a gamble. Many Americans are a pain in the ass to be with. They expect Europe to be like the USA and they'll drive you crazy. I'm American and I'm saying this in all honesty. It's just a reality that you'll have to deal with. Ditch them. If you happen to have brought a travel partner with you that is unable to cope with the culture, give them a chance, but if they still can't deal with Europe it's time to send them home. I also wouldn?t recommend traveling with Americans that are carrying too much luggage. You?ll be the target of every thief in town. The best advice I can give you if you?re an American solo traveler is to either take advantage of a dual citizenship or to have a plastic Canadian flag attached to your bag. You can get one at a Canadian travel agency and the Canadians wear them to avoid being treated like an American. Americans aren?t the most popular people in Europe.
8. Certain nations are very racist. I constantly
heard the line "You're American so you're different". They thus treated
me better than most, but I couldn't stand watching minorities, those of
color, Muslims, Jews, and 3rd world immigrants/refugees treated like garbage.
I also couldn't stand the way the neo-nazis are "tolerated". You will
no doubt see skinheads on the subway and you'll no doubt be disgusted
by what they do. I'm in shock that the Europeans don't rise up and kick
the crap out of them. I couldn't imagine being a solo minority traveler.
You don't want to find yourself in a situation where you're being persecuted.
Nobody will help you. They'll turn their heads and pretend it's not happening.
Daniel
San Diego, CA USA Sun 06/02/2002
Bad time/Good time...its up to you
Last summer, I decided to make one of the biggest decisions of my young
life and travel abroad on a six week excursion to Spain. My trip was in
conjunction with a student exchange program, so I had a place to stay with
a wonderful family in a quaint city called Leon, in northern Spain.
The first few days I was quite disoriented, I was in a new place in a new part of the world, speaking a language I had only studied in books. Throughout the six weeks, I did actually have a good time.
My fondest memory is one day being allowed to explore the city by myself, on my own terms, just soaking up everything. It was such a wonderful experience, and many a candy shop was visited...the candy is cheap as dirt and delicious...
Anyways, looking back now I can see times where my own inhibitions limited my experience, my reservations about little, miniscule things hindered my enjoyment of my trip. Women, for gods sake, your body is your body. Love it, travel with it, enjoy it. I celebrated my 16th birthday in Spain last summer, and truth be told, I didnt find it very enjoyable, and the fault was mine. Instead of deciding to have a good time, I chose to feel depressed and lonely and fat. LA-DI-FRICKIN-DA. That was a mistake. You create your own experiences, traveling abroad makes this so much more evident. Decide to have a wonderful time, be positive, savor it.
In the period of about two weeks, I will be in
Spain again. This time I am going to go insane, and I am not going to
be afraid to say 'No, I dont want to do that,' or 'I want to go here/see
this.' I will also bring along a travel journal. I am going to make this
time amazing and wonderful and full of new and exciting experiences, not
because I have to to, because I choose to.
Pauline E.
USA Fri 05/31/2002
solo travel
As a single man, and after several trips in the States and abroad, I prefer
solo travel. I travel at my pace, see what I want to see, when I want to
see it. I also find it forces me to interact with those who otherwise I
would, making for a much more colorful trip. Also, a group only travels
as fast as its slowest member. I have found when I do travel with a companion,
I find myself talking to him or her, instead of interacting with others.
Its also more fun to figure things out such as local transportation options
on my own. I highly encourage solo travel.
Gary Fullenkamp
anna, oh USA Sat 05/25/2002
First Solo Flight
I did my first solo vacation. Two weeks split between London, Paris and
Edinburgh. I'm a single male in my 30's. Here are my two cents about the
experience. If you've never travelled alone, DO IT! It was great. Maybe
two weeks was a little long for a first timer, but loneliness rarely set
in, since I had to talk to people just to enjoy a conversation. And it's
worth it when you can strike up a conversation with a local.
I lounged around the park by the Eiffel Tower for three hours, because I could. Spent all day at Versailles because I wanted to walk the grounds.
Absorbed the locals in England at the pubs and coffee shops because I didn't have to cram in my day seeing things like the 'London Dungeon' which I had no interest in seeing. Didn't have to worry about a schedule.
Finding restaurants with a bar area helps when you have to eat alone. I met a few people doing the same thing, and you dont feel as wierd as sitting at a table by yourself. The bartender at the place I ate three times in Paris didn't even speak English but he was shaking my hand by the third night and had my Stella Artios ready as if we were old friends. I preferred eating at the same place because the food was great, reasonably cheap (considering the area) and it gave me a social home base where I at least saw a couple faces that looked familiar, even if only for a couple hours.
One night I was reading a book, a Brit travelling
solo was eating silently and a local French girl who was studying were
at the bar minding our own business when two American middle aged women
came barrelling in. No "Bonjour", no "Do you speak English?" in either
language, right in the door "Do you all take American Dollars?" all loud
and obnoxious. We all laughed and had drinks and I have two great new
friends now from that experience. You can't buy tickets to enjoy some
things that just 'pop-up' while you are travelling alone. I'm gearing
up for a week in Northern Italy solo already.
Greg
Philadelphia, PA USA Wed 05/22/2002
Woman Travelling Alone? No Problem!
I just got back from my first trip to Italy, 2 weeks by myself. I had a
fantastic time! On the first day I was a little overwhelmed, but after that
I quickly settled into the travel mode. It gave me a wonderful feeling of
freedom to be able to do exactly what I wanted without having to worry about
anyone else when deciding where to eat, what to see, etc. I could change
my plans at the last minute for any reason and no one else would care or
even know. I could sleep late when I wanted to, blow off the Sistine Chapel
because I was too tired to get up on my last day in Rome, spend a whole
day doing nothing if I felt like it, etc. and no one would be upset.
I stayed in hostels, so there were always people (many of whom spoke English) to talk with, or go out to dinner with, but we could easily go our separate ways whenever we wanted to. I met a few couples who were travelling together and were ready to kill each other. (Though to be fair, I also met a few who were travelling together and having the time of their lives.) I wrote in my journal while waiting in long lines for museums or in train stations, and consequently have a 200+-page journal where I recorded practically every little thing that happened. I also had a good, long book to help me unwind at night.
I don't speak much Italian, but didn't really have
any problems with that. I also didn't have a problem being bothered by
men (at least, not more that I do in the U.S.), not even in Southern Italy
where I wore shorts and tank tops the whole time. I could see that this
kind of travel could be hard for some people, but if you're independent
and up for a challenge, go for it! I cannot believe what a feeling of
confidence I came home with, knowing that I could travel all over by myself
and have a great time and not have any major problems. I'm already planning
my next trip!
Rita
NY USA Mon 05/13/2002
Mealtime on solo trips
I agree with C Whitmore who says that a good way to assuage a lonely meal
is to use that as the chance to update your journal. I always do that during
meals and it is very relaxing, and the journal serves to be my company.
Alan
nj USA Wed 05/08/2002
Solo travel
Kylie is so right about getting off the plane and having that first flash
of "oh my God what have I done" and want to get back on the plane. My advice
is to sight see as much as possible. Another thing is to bring a mild tranquilizer.
I use xanax occasionally and just a small amount to calm you down does wonders
and puts you on an even keel. Also, meet people, especially people from
your own country. Conversations with people who share your culture helps
a lot. I was in Venice as a first stop, and the water seemed to calm things
down as well. Most important, get out of your room and do stuff.
Alan
nj USA Wed 05/08/2002
solo
I have been to Europe several times in the past few years and usually travel
solo. It is definitely the best for me as it forces me to be more outgoing
and to make decisions for myself. I have learned what I really enjoy doing
and like the freedom. The only possible lonely time is dinner as I always
force myself to have one sit-down meal in a restaurant every day; I usually
ask locals for a loud fun place or take a book and make plans for the next
day but I often meet people while I'm there. I have also travelled with
another person from home for the first week of a three week trip after which
she went home to work and I continued on.
This was the best of both worlds; you can share the first part and then
have total independence later. Also, in college, I travelled for two months
with a buddy of mine. It wasn't until the last ten days of the trip we
split up to see our respective relatives and then met for our flight home
which turned out great. Whereas travelling every day with someone can
get frustrating, I recommend splitting up for a day of two and then getting
together for a few days. It keeps the trip, the conversation, and the
friendship fresh.
stevenpeterson
dallas, tx USA Wed 04/03/2002
Italy
I just returned from a solo trip to Rome and Assisi, I stayed 30 days. It
was great! I don't speak Italian and never had a bit of trouble. I did follow
Fr. Christian advise about staying in Convents, it was wonderful.
Libby Sztukowski
Evergreen, Mo USA Tue 03/19/2002
TRAVELLING (NOT) SOLO
Hi, Ever since my best friend moved to Melbourne and started a new, demanding
job, I haven't been able to find a compatible partner to travel with. The
people I know can't afford it and my husband is too busy. So I'm simply
going solo but in the middle of the way, I think it would be great to have
a mate travelling with me to share experiences and expenses.
Some will say that solitary travel is "the only way to go" or "a divine
experience" but I find sharing a trip much more rewarding, especially
for women travellers. It is also considerably safer.
Gypsymama
Sydney, NSW Australia Mon 03/11/2002
Re: The Only Way
Freddy, you are so right. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up after our trip.
me
USA Tue 03/05/2002
The only way
I have seen other people's relationships unravel in front of me on long
train trips. One of the most memorable lines I've overheard was "Well, if
you had gotten ready earlier, we could have had time to eat in a restaurant,
instead of having to eat this bag of fruit, like animals."
I've done Europe twice with two different girlfriends: Once was like being a servant with romantic privileges, the other time was like escorting a small child for whom bathrooms, drinks of water and a billion other things had to be found on a daily basis--frequently a very short time after being offered and not needed.
Remember your Kipling: "Down to Gehenna/Or up to
the Throne/He travels the fastest/Who travels alone."
Fat Freddy Fractal
USA Fri 03/01/2002
Solo not lonely
I traveled alone again. For the 1st time in 30 years. I'd forgotten how
special it is being the whole commitee. I'm a medieval history buff. I love
and understand Art History for the historical context. I'm a real traveller
rather than a renegade tourist. Some people's quick tourism is anothers
scratch the surface research. I prefer 2 day stays if not 3 in each cubby
hole. Keep travelling. Don't expect folks to understand. Thanx Rick!
gawkabout
Austin, Tx USA Thu 02/21/2002
Travel alone can be a divine experience
Travel is wonderful. Travel alone can be a blessing. Allow enough opportunity
to discover the sights, take as much time in museums, churches, etc. as
you want. Respect others privacy. Plan on needing some assistance with directions
and local information. Enjoy the food. Send postcards to those back home,
be secure in yourself, use the local metro, do not flash that you are a
tourist. Let someone at your departure have your schedule in case they need
to contact you. Stay in contact with friends. For those females in financial
need, tourists may stay at convents in Italy, they must plan ahead and be
prepared for spartan surroundings and rules; but each is in a lovely location.
Father Christian
Vatican City, Vatican Rome Italy Sun 01/13/2002