Solo Travel: Pros and Cons: 2003
Many people are reluctant or nervous to travel alone. Share your tips on traveling alone safely, economically...and without being lonely.
Solo Senior Travel
I am a 64 yo, retired, widower (as of July 2002). I decided to strike out
on my own and see the world, something my wife and I had planned to do after
retirement. So...I went ahead without her (although I would frequently "talk" to her about sights and experiences throughout the trip).
My trip was just over a month long and included France, Belgium, England, Wales and Ireland. I planned the entire trip myself (on the internet) and stayed almost exclusively at B&B's. B&B lodging is absolutely a great way to go for solo travelers, comparable to hostels. Every day I met and had conversations with people from various countries...but very few Americans. A major focus of my trip was to visit WW II battle sites, museums and memorials (I am a life-long student of WW II history). I found that being alone seemed to make talking to people much easier than if I was with a group or, even, another person. I have copied a few comments from a summary of my trip and they are listed below. If anyone wishes to read my entire summary (six pages), please e-mail me and I will send a copy.
26 October - I left Honfleur and headed west towards Normandy. I stopped at "Pegasus Bridge," a critical battle site (British) of WW II (early morning hours on 6 June 1944). I had the honor of meeting and talking to Madame Gondree'-Pritchet, daughter of the people who owned the Gondree' cafe adjacent to the bridge. Her parents had aided in caring for the wounded (German and British) as the battle progressed around them. The cafe is still there and in business. It's also a small museum for the battle site. 26 Oct. (evening) - I checked into my 500 yo B&B farm house. The proprietor was an acerbic, retired British Army Colonel. I loved him! We had several confrontational but friendly conversations which we both, obviously enjoyed. It all started when he informed me that, "The Americans are destroying the English language!" His wife even interjected herself once and scolded her husband... saying, "You're being rude!"
29 Oct. - Michael Tizon was the proprietor of my B&B near Mont St. Michel. He was concerned about the fires near Los Angeles and asked if my house was in danger (it was not). Understandable since he was also a local fire chief. He spent considerable time with me asking me to help him with English pronunciation of his homemade jams and jellies...like "rhubarb."
30 Oct. - I stayed in Madame Duret's B&B in the Loire Valley. While eating breakfast, she wanted to talk to me about my trip but her English was a bit limited. There was an older French couple in the room who had no English at all. She suddenly left the room and came back with her daughter (maybe early 20's) wrapped in a bathrobe and looking like she had just gotten up. She was very pleasant and acted as interpreter. I told Madame Duret of my plans to visit Oradur sur Glane that day. She was surprised that I knew about it. ( It is a small village in which the Nazis massacred about 650 French men, women and children on 10 June 1944...now a very somber memorial). The French couple got up to leave. The man shook my hand, smiled and gave me a strong "thumbs up." I suddenly realized he had been listening and was thanking me, an American, for honoring the French. What a moment!
9 Nov. - I had a very interesting breakfast conversation with a couple from Belgium. We were both staying at a B&B in the Cotswolds (England). The conversatrion concerned the war in Iraq and war on terrorism. They were very concerned that Pres. Bush was going to drag Europe into a major confrontation with the crazy terrorists in the mid-east. I told them that I supported Bush and, although I didn't like war, I saw the necessity of doing so. Their perspective was rather new to me. They expressed the thought that Europeans are in great fear of the mid-east (due, in part, to close proximity) and don't want to do anything to stir things up. Although we were not in complete agreement, the conversation was pleasant and respectful.
16 Nov. - I drove out to Slea Head, a point of land on the Dingle Peninsula (Ireland). It was a cloudy, chilly day as I was walking around ancient ruins on the hillside overlooking Dingle Bay. Two women walked up the hill towards me. One of the women introduced herself as a lifetime, local resident and she was showing her Australian sister the sights. She could really talk and told me about the history of Dingle and it's fishing industry. THEN...she said,..."Let me sing you a song." She sang a local, Irish ballad about the wives waiting for their fisherman-husbands to return from the sea. Then she seranaded me with a ballad about the beauty of Dingle. Indescribable!
Those are just a few examples of the many encounters
I had with local people and other travelers. I believe it would not have
been this way if I had been in a tour group or even with another person.
Solo travelers just seem, somehow to be a magnet for meeting others. I
believe that is especially true if you happen to be a "of a certain age."
Needless to say, I will do this many times over the coming years. Don't
be afraid to travel alone. The experiences are far beyond what you might
imagine!
Doug
Arcadia, CA USA Sat 12/20/2003
Traveling Solo
Traveling solo definitely has it's pro's and con's, but I think the pro's
far outweigh the cons. I traveled Europe solo for five weeks right after
I graduated from college and it still stands as five of the greatest weeks
of my life. I learned so much about myself in those five weeks! I became
more independent, confident, street-smart, and outgoing because you have
to be!
When I first arrived I was shy and nervous all the time. One of the big things I had to get over was learning to eat in a restaurant all by myself! That is just not something people do in the states. But I did it several times in Europe because I wanted to experience the food part of the culture there and I'm so glad I did. Every time I sat down at a table by myself I ended up striking up a conversation with the people at the tables next to me. Once the person at the table next to me ended up being a tour guide who gave me all sorts of good information!
There are only two big con's I can think of for traveling alone. First,
when I left at the end of five weeks, I was just plain TIRED! You shoulder
a lot of responsibility when you decided to 'wing-it' and just arrive in
a town in the morning with no reservations for hostels or anything else.
The stress of having to be the one always responsible for finding a place
to stay can get old after awhile. That responsibility is better shared among
friends or if you're solo make your trip less of a 'wing-it' experience
and make some reservations where applicable. Believe me, the thought of
spending the night alone in a train station is rather scary! The second
con I can think of is that when you are touring some of these amazing places,
you just want to turn to someone and say, 'Hey, look at that! It's amazing!'
and there isn't always someone there. I found people to go on some tours
with and view some museums with, but for the most part I had to content
myself with taking pictures of it all and telling stories to friends later.
I guess in summary, there are good and bad things about going in a group,
and good and bad things about going solo. Either way you won't regret it!
Jennifer
Where haven't I lived?, TX USA Sat 12/13/2003
Sexual harassment at The Pink Palace in Greece
If you are planning to stay at The Pink Palace on Corfu, Greece, please
this site's Greece & Turkey Tips board for an account of the sexual harassment
I experienced there.
Juliana
Montreal, QC Canada Fri 11/28/2003
SOLO TRAVEL : GO FOR IT!
I had always dreamed about traveling to Europe. So when I got a good job
that would allow me to travel, I was ready to go. Unfortunately none of
friends had jobs that would allow them to travel with me. I was starting
to think my dreams would go unfulfilled. Then I saw Rick Steves' program
and decided solo travel was a option. I was so scared on the day I left,
I accually considered taking the shuttle back home and just studying about
Spain and Italy for three weeks and faking that I went. I ended up going
and had the time of my life and came back as a completely different person.
Braver, more adventurous and more confident. Don't let the thought of solo
travel hold you back. Life's too short.
Marcus
La Mesa, ca USA Tue 10/28/2003
Older solo travel
As a single man in my early 50s I've found that solo travel offers unique
challenges as well as rewards. My typical US-style vacation allowance doesn't
afford the travel time I would like so I have to start planning early to
get the most out of my vacation time. I scan all the bargain travel sites
and attempt to locate destinations and companies that don't penalize single
travelers too much with the dreaded "single supplement" charges. I go directly
to the airline sites and then research lodging and local transportation
hoping to find the best deal. This is how I booked my trip to Ireland last
January (I travel the off-peak season for the best bargains and fewer crowds).
I booked a couple of days in a hotel in Dublin to adjust to the new time zone before picking up my prebooked rental car for my drive across Ireland. I knew I wanted to see the Cliffs of Moher and the Dingle Peninsula but other than that I had no definite plans. As such, my fondest memories were the result of serendipitous encounters like the evening I spent 6 hours in a local pub in Lisdoonvarna ( a small town of a few hundred residents). I was the only non local in a crowded pub listening to a local musician, drinking far too many Guinesses, and trying to understand the slightly tipsy locals as they spoke to me - occasionally slipping into Gaelic. We spoke of local, regional and global events until closing time at nearly two in the morning. I didn't even mind the hangover while staring down my "Irish breakfast" too early the next morning.
I've already booked a trip to London in late January
of 2004, taking advantage of the incredible air fares. Additionally, I've
booked a side trip to Amsterdam on Easyjet for a paltry 6GBP each way!
Unlike last year in Ireland, when I stayed in B&Bs, this year in London
and Amsterdam I'll stay in hostels. This 50-year-old solo traveler is
enjoying new found freedoms and taking full advantage of cut-rate air
prices.
KMH
Kearney, NE USA Mon 10/20/2003
Safe for women in Germany
I was in Germany alone for a week. I felt very safe and had a great trip.
Stick to RS books. Almost everyone from America had them. It is a great
way to start talking to people.
Susie
Dayton, OH USA Mon 10/20/2003
Solo Travel
I just got back from my first solo trip to Italy. As an independent solo
female traveller I had a wonderful time. Being on your own made me more
outgoing, and willing to talk to just about anybody! I never had to compromise
about what sights to see or where to eat, and by eating in the wonderful
osterias, usually you sat at a long table with many different people. RS
books were fabulous! I couldnt have had such a great trip without them!
Megan
Vancouver, BC CAN Sun 10/12/2003
Independent Traveler
I am a young minority female and I traveled independently to England, France
and Italy last summer for three months and I would have to same it was one
of the best experiences of my life. I did a few things that are discouraged
in all of the travel books such as having my maps visible when walking the
streets but nothing bad happened. I had a few Italian guys try and kiss
me (not the fine ones, the old ugly ones, I don't know what was up with
that) but nothing I couldn't handle. I worked in Italy for about a month
as a camp counselor so I met people that way and we took weekend trips together
to different cities. I also stayed at hostels so the times I wanted to travel
with people then I would just hook up with my roommates. I liked being able
to make all of my on decisions, deciding when, where and how I would do
something. The experience also helped me to build confidence in myself and
it helped me to appreciate that I am a self-sufficient chick who can do
just about anything that she puts her mind to.
S. Wilson
Chicago, IL USA Wed 09/24/2003
Traveling alone ... Do's and Don't's
Having recently moved to Germany alone, and previously traveled in Europe
solo, I would like to share a list of things to do and not to do:
1)Do ... hide in your hotel. Having already made it to your destination, don't take the chance to see any more of the area. You will always have memories and stories about what you saw from your window, and interesting anecdotes about foreign pillows and soaps.
2)Don't ... go to restaurants alone. Better to go hungry than face the nightmare of enjoying a new dish and a relaxing time.
3)Do ... avoid speaking with other people at all costs. The opportunities to meet new friends, experience a different culture, relinquish your solitude, or just have fun are not worth the enormous task of saying, "Hello."
4)Don't ... visit any museums, art galleries, historical sites, etc. Everyone knows that learning, appreciating art, or absorbing ancient beauty requires the presence of at least one more person. To attempt any of the above alone would defeat the whole purpose (ie. broadening one's horizons).
As an experienced traveler, I feel confident offerring
the following warning: If you are brash enough not to heed the aforementioned
advice, you risk the posibility of enjoying of yourself, by yourself.
And that, fellow travelers, could change your whole outlook on life!
Adam
Munich, Germany Thu 09/11/2003
Solo Adventures
For many years a teacher friend and I went on 3-4 week summer driving trips
through Britain in which we "winged it" from one B&B to the next. Then life
got in the way and 20 years passed. In October, 2001 I decided it was time
to travel again but no one was available to go along. Here was a chance
to see if I could do it on my own. I used an airline service to handle the
plane and hotel arrangements for a week in Amsterdam and had a great time.
In fact,I went back in December for a week in London. It was fascinating to see how the city had changed in 20 years: the British Museum had a facelift, the Millennium Bridge had been constructed (but was not yet in use due to engineering problems), etc. By this point, I realized making the arrangements is actually part of the fun of travel.
So in October of 2002 I did a solo drive through France from Reims to Normandy to the Loire Valley to Paris--1000 miles in 7 days. I learned to co-exist with Europe's unique car, the SmartCar. (Problem #1 was figuring out where to put the ignition key. The answer: it fits in the bottom of the floor mounted gearshift!) I also learned the French are wonderful, warm people (not the arrogant snobs described by those who have never left their home country and who think the world's greatest vacation is "a week at the shore.") I do not speak French but smiling and pointing to the map got me directions whenever I needed them. This October it's back to France for the adventure of rail travel on day trips out of the capital. I can't wait.
When you travel solo, YOU decide when to leave
the hotel, where to go, how long to stay, etc. If you fall in love with
the Musee D'Orsay, spend the day. If the Tate Modern turns out to not
be your cup of tea, you can leave. There's a LOT to be said for freedom.
Whether travelling solo or with a friend, I have never had any reason
to be concerned with safety. So long as you do not leave your common sense
at home, you can be as safe traveling in Europe as on Main Street--and
have a lot more fun.
Cheryl Neff
Wrightsville, PA USA Sun 08/24/2003
Convent Stays
I am going to Italy again (for the 3rd time) this Aug/Sept. Please read
Rick's books! They offer great advice. For single women traveling alone
or families (I'm not sure if single men can do this), staying at convents
is a great idea! It's cheap, safe and clean. Usually you can get a room
with or without a private bath. I stayed in Nostra Signora convent on Via
Sistina, near the Spanish steps very cheaply last year (about $35 with private
bathroom); however, the sisters were not pleasant at all and did not speak
a work of English. Plus they kept the $30 change I was to get back as they
wanted a bigger deposit first. But it's a great location, cheap and near
some great sights! "Bed and Blessings: Italy" is a wonderful guidebook on
convent lodging!
Learn the language! Italians are generally wonderful and hospitable but even more so when you try to learn the language (don't be afraid to mess up, they will love you even more for it!).
Watch your valuables/money on the subways as I
was pickpocketed. But don't be afraid to take the bus or metro as they
are cheap and fast! Try to talk to the locals and hopefully you can meet
some fellow Americans (or whatever country you are from)there too!
Donna
cleveland, oh USA Sat 08/23/2003
Solo Travel
To all those afraid to travel solo, I say go for it! My very first solo
trip (and without benefit of a tour group which I generally detest) was
to Egypt. I am female and was at the time 33 years old. I booked the flight
from San Francisco to Cairo myself, and had hotel reservations only for
three days in Cairo which I also arranged myself. The rest of the trip was
played by ear. It was the best trip ever! Culture shock, yes, but I had
a wonderful time. No one bothered me (I learned some Arabic before I left,
and the Egyptian people were friendly and warm, and very appeciative of
my attempts to speak to them.) I've been back twice since -- both times
with girlfriends. Those trips were fun, too, as I played tour guide. But
I wished I had gone alone instead.
As a solo traveler you are master of your own fate, can do what you want
when you want, and not worry about whether or not the other person is
bored, not having fun, etc. In November I head out on my first trip to
Italy - alone and without a tour group. I asked my husband to go, but
he said no. Two cousins also turned me down. It is just as well - I've
decided I prefer to go alone. To the solo traveler, especially women,
I just say to be aware and stay alert, and take everything anyone tells
you with a grain a salt. Learn a little of the language, and use common
sense. You will be just fine.
Joanne Munro
Lakewood, CO USA Sun 08/03/2003
Reserve Ahead
I went to Italy last June where I spent three wonderful weeks in that country.
Despite the fact I speak no Italian, I found the people warm, inviting and
helpful. If I can make one recommendation, it's to book some or all of your
accommodation before leaving. Rick Steves' books are terrific reference,
as well as the Hello Italy!/Europe series by Margo Classe. Other than that,
use your common sense when dealing with people. Be polite and patient and
enjoy yourself.
Sandra
Vancouver, BC Canada Sun 07/20/2003
Talk to Locals
Locals hold the key to friendship, companionship, and great advice. Seeking
out locals is a great way to learn more about where you are at, but if you
completly shut yourself off to other travelers who are experiencing the
same things you are can be a big mistake! There is never anything wrong
with talking to and meeting up with other travelers. Always keep your mind
open and magic will happen.
USA Sun 07/13/2003
with vs without partners
I?ve travelled through Europe both with and without a partner. They both
have their advantages. A partner always gives you a person to talk to, but
that is not always good. When I am without someone, I still want someone
to talk to so am forced to seek out new people. These new relationships
can be some of the best ever.
David
Chicago, IL USA Thu 07/10/2003
Advantages of travelling alone
One advantage of travelling alone is that it makes you more available to
meet people - and meeting people has always been the richest reward for
me in travelling. One thing is for certain: you may be travelling alone,
but you will not be the only one travelling alone. No matter where I?ve
gone or what I?ve done in two solo trips to Europe, I?ve seen other solo
travellers doing the same thing I was doing. Usually they are as eager to
take a break from their solitude as you are and spend some face-to-face
time with another person. All it takes is for one of you to take the initiative
to say hello and start a conversation.
A great way I?ve found to meet other travellers is on small local tours. All the major European cities have them. I mean the one-evening walking tours, bike tours, pub tours. Check out ?London walks? in London and ?Mike?s Bike Tours? in Paris. They usually involve just showing up a specified spot, and begin mingling with a dozen or two fellow travellers. In my experience, these tours are a favourite way for many travellers to meet other people. There are usually numerous other solo travellers, all just waiting for someone to come up and say, ?Hi, whereya from?? I?ve met people who became evening pub buddies, professional contacts, day-trip partners, dinner companions, and even a two-week European whirlwind romance partner on such tours. And I am not a socially gregarious person. I just took a deep breath and stuck out my hand and said hello.
Not only do you tend to meet other solo travellers
when you?re alone, but if it is a slow night in the little restaurant
you?ve chosen, you may find the bored and curious waiter or owner chatting
you up. I usually stay about three days in each city. Instead of being
a solo stranger in a different restaurant each day, try going back to
the same small restaurant three days in a row. The first day you?re just
a tourist, the second day they recognize you and give you a warm welcome,
the third day you are practically family.
Larry
Canada Tue 07/01/2003
Backpack security
Just finished a 3 week solo European trip. 3 quick tips: - use twist ties
to tie together the zippers on your daypack. It will give a thief a challenge
and he should move on. - Buy a padlock and short bicycle cable with you.
Lock your backpack and daypack to your train seat and/or your bed post.
You'll sleep soundly knowing your gear can't be stolen. - Stand at the back
door of the Subway car with your back against the 'non-opening' door. This
way you can see every passenger on the train; your back is to the wall so
no one can get your pack; and you're real close to the exit door when you
get to your desination.
Jeff Churchill
Vancouver, BC Canada Mon 06/23/2003
Mary staying in hostels
Mary, I've attempted to e-mail in order to respond to you, but it doesn't
seem to be working so I'll try here. I suppose it may not be the same in
all hostels, but I thought I'd add my 2 cents. I have found that in hostels,
people of all ages are welcome. Granted, making friends may take a little
more effort, but just a little. I've met some of the coolest people who
are older than me while staying at hostels. Hope you have a good time. If
you are looking for specific places to stay in the UK, what towns are you
planning on staying in?
Libby
Philadelphia, USA Sun 06/08/2003
Where to stay?
I have really enjoyed reading about so many wonderful experiences of solo
travels. I want to travel to Ireland, Scotland, and Great Britain by myself
this summer. My main concern is about finding places to stay for the night
in which I'll feel comfortable. I haven't noticed too much about this idea.
I know about hostels but feel I may be considered too old as I'm in my early
50's Any suggestions regarding accommodations in these areas would be appreciated.
Mary V
Rochester Hills, MI USA Sat 06/07/2003
Solo travel is different
I went on my first European trip (to Paris) solo last November (11/2002).
I was originally supposed to go with someone, and they backed out at the
last minute. I decided that I could do it and went for it. I spent a week
in Paris and had a wonderful time. I don't speak more than 5 words of French,
but I had no problems. I got a great hotel in the 7th district, and was
within reasonable walking distance of the Louvre, the Orsay, Saint-Chapelle...
I can't wait to go again... I'm already planning another trip for this year,
and I don't care if I go solo or not! Traveling solo does mean freedom,
but it also makes you think seriously about what you want to do, and makes
any fear of screwing up just go away... because no one is going to convince
you one way or the other! You either do what you want, or not. And if you
spent the money to get to Europe, what's the point in hiding in your hotel?
:)
Mark Davidson
Morgan Hill, CA USA Fri 06/06/2003
Italy solo
My first trip to Italy was a solo one. My friend Denise bailed out of
the trip a few months before we were to leave. I decided I wouldn't sacrifice
the trip. It was one of the most exciting things I have ever done. I felt
like I could conquer anything after that trip. Everything was very intense
and I have so many incredible memories of the places & people. The advantage
to traveling solo is you get to pick and choose what to do and when to
do them. I was able to cover alot of ground and wasn't subject to anybody
else's mood swings. The only disadvantage, that I can think of was not
feeling totally comfortable going into some restaurants to eat alone.
My guardian angel was looking out for me, my trip
was magical. I didn't speak any Italian, but got on just fine. I traveled
from Rome to Florence to Venice and back to Rome. Each city seemed to
be there just for me to enjoy! I am so glad I did it and look forward
to doing it again. I spent alot of time on the internet and plotted my
trip and reserved rooms and tickets ahead of time, so I didn't feel stressed
upon arriving into any given city. Rome was intimidating, however Florence
and Venice are the perfect sized cities for solo travelers to conquer.
Don't wait to make your dreams become realities, take the leap you'll
be so happy you did.
C Keathley
St. Louis, MO USA Tue 05/27/2003
Nothing to fear about....
I went on a solo trip to Paris and Italy in March. It was also my first
time going to Europe. At first, I was a little apprehensive. But it was
great! You are on your own time. I planned everything that I wanted to do.
People seemed to be very helpful if you asked. I met a lot of nice people.
I took advice from people on the Graffiti Wall on how to protect myself.
But everything went great. And I'm definitely going back!
Dario
Seattle, WA USA Tue 05/27/2003
Solo tour groups?
Can anyone recommend any solo-only tour groups? I would like to take a trip
this summer and have no one to go with. I'm a little weary of traveling
completely on my own, nor do I want to be the odd person out in a tour where
everyone else has a companion. Any sources would be appreciated. Thanks!
Scoti
cleveland, oh USA Sun 05/11/2003
Experience solo travel
I find everything to be so much more intense when you're traveling alone!
You're not busy talking with your partner, compromising about what's next,
waiting while he or she finishes up in the bathroom.... You're out there
EXPERIENCING the world! That's what travel is all about!
Karen Stone
Columbus, OH USA Fri 05/02/2003
Solo Travel
I love it! I've been traveling solo for more than 20+ years and have never,
ever regretted one trip because I went alone. I see what I want to see,
go or stay as I wish, and I find the "natives" seem even more friendly to
the solo traveler, especially a woman. All you need is common sense street
smarts and a money belt. I've been all over from Iceland to Prague and everywhere
in between by myself. Don't hesitate, just go. Happy travels!
Betty
Oak Park, IL USA Sun 04/27/2003
Travel memories...or lack thereof
In years to come, what you remember from your travels and what a travel
companion remembers may be two entirely different views. Case in point,
my dearest friend of 30+ years and I have both traveled together as well
as seperatly and over the years we each have remembered different things
from our trips together. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the memories
you build will not necessarily be the same as your travel pal's! Take those
pictures and keep that travel journal to help with those memories. Trust
me, your mind will remember the most important events without having to
rely on someone else to help reconstruct them.
CSR
USA Wed 04/23/2003
Soon to be first time solo
I have been trying to go to Europe for years and years but my husband doesn't
like traveling. He kept telling me we don't have enough money or he doesn't
have enough time etc, when in fact we have more money than his friends who
travel everywhere. Finally, after much frustration, I decided to go to China
without him. He paid for my mama to go with me on a friend's tour.
This year I planned on going to Europe with 2 girlfriends. We had a solid
plan for October and then moved it to May of 04. Then I found out I got
laid off and needed to travel before I came back and found another job.
None of my friends are free until the end of the year. At first I had
given up going to Europe and had planned to visit my family in Thailand
instead. But then a friend said you are old enough(40), you can do it
alone! I decided then that I can't wait for other people forever because
things change all the time. My husband, who is always overprotective,
surprisingly agreed that I could go providing I could find someone on
graffiti board to partner with. Then he agreed that I could go solo if
I really wanted to. So I've been reading this board intensively and will
go solo right after my Thailand trip. Thanks to all for the info I found
here.
Susie
Littleton, co USA Sun 04/20/2003
Memories
I've just come back from an intense solo trip. I've traveled with family
and friends in the past. But this was my first time really solo. I have
been fantasizing about it for years. I thought I was prepared for most of
the events and challenges (as well as the benefits) of traveling alone.
One thing that no one warned me about and I was not prepared for though. I was surprised how hard it hit me that (after my trip) I had no one to reminisce with. No one that also felt that perfect moment of diving into the freezing cold Atlantic "on the OTHER side" just because. No one who could laugh at the absurdity of an Aussie trying to tie his board shorts on me so the waves wouldn?t wash them off. No one who could remember the feel of the powerful breeze coming off the ocean as I took my solo walk along the cliff tops. No one else who could laugh with me or tear up with me as I remembered the foreign friends I made. No one who could still taste the new foods I tried. No one who could still envision the moment the flaming fire stick hit me in the back of the head. No one to say, ?How about the time?? On walks with my regular travel buddy she will never pipe up, ?Doesn?t that bush remind you of the gardens of ...?? I will never sit on my back patio and have someone remind me of a funny or touching moment from this trip.
Since returning I have been frightened of forgetting.
Frightened that without the aid of a travel partner, the journal and photos
just somehow won't be enough. I had been prepared for some loneliness
on the road. I had not been prepared for the loneliness of coming home
to family and friends but being alone with my memories. Would I do it
again? In a minute! I just wanted others to be prepared for what I have
experienced this past week.
Libby
Philadelphia, PA USA Tue 04/15/2003
Solo Travel
I travel alone all the time. I have driven over much of western Europe and
Great Britain/Ireland. Returned from Paris a month ago. I go to Paris and
France often. Next trip to France/Spain and the Basque country, beginning
in Biarritz and I will fly home from Barcelona.
Joan
Asheville, NC USA Sat 03/29/2003
Let's Go!
I am headed to Italy for the month of April, travelling solo as a 31 year
old woman. This is a life-long dream for me, and I will not let a paranoia
driven media scare me into staying at home. Despite the war in Iraq, I believe
that travelling alone will be enriching and exciting . . . and I appreciate
the positive comments others have posted on this "wall". I believe we can
all still enjoy this tiny planet in the context of a larger universe, with
peace in our hearts, respect for other cultures, and kindess toward people
regardless of their opinions. Andiamo!
Kristine
Spokane, WA USA Thu 03/20/2003
Solo Dining
I am a 31, soon to be 32, SWF and have often dined alone - at home and in
restaurants - with no problems. I find it a relaxing time to gather my thoughts,
concentrate on the food and atmosphere. I bring a book, the newspaper, that
magazine I never seem to finish, or a notebook. Filling in the time spent
waiting for my food to arrive. A perfect way to relax and unwind.
Kimberly Coast
Smith Center, KS USA Thu 02/27/2003
Solo Travel
I took my first trip alone at 18 when I travelled around Europe for a couple
of months on a rail pass. That was 30 years ago and I've continued to travel
solo for both work and pleasure, even though I've been married and have
two kids.
Don't be afraid to go into the best restaurants alone if you want to eat there! You're a customer just like everyone else. I've done this in New York, London, St. Martin, Miami - lots of places. It's a great opportunity to just enjoy what you want. The meal may go faster than it will when you have a group of people chatting, but all the wait staff have been very accomodating. Don't apologize for being alone!
The only time I felt better about travelling with someone was on September 11 2001. I was flying from Athens to London while the planes were flying into the World Trade Center and did not know about it until landing in London. I had to spend several extra days in London and was grateful on that trip to be with friends. But, I think we will all agree that that was a very different situation.
I've travelled alone since then and am planning
a multi-month trip alone later this year back to Europe.
Yayoye
Toronto, Canada Sat 02/22/2003
Solo travel
On my first trip to Europe (2001 - Ireland), I went 4 days ahead of my husband
and absolutely LOVED traveling solo - he then flew over & joined me, and
we proceeded to argue through the remaining 10 days of the trip. We agreed
that my future trips to Europe will be solo (he doesn't enjoy Europe, I
have more vacation time, and I really do enjoy traveling alone sometimes.)
My first entirely solo trip will be in April - I'm returning to Ireland this time, but I intend to expand my travels to the rest of Europe in the future. While I love going to beach resorts with my husband, I also love exploring small towns, interesting shops, historical sites and simply wandering around wherever fate takes me. And I find this is much more enjoyable when I don't have to worry whether or not my travel companion is having fun. I found that I could strike up a conversation with people when I wanted and I could be alone and contemplative when that suited my mood. It was wonderful, and I'm really looking forward to repeating the experience this spring. My memories of my time alone in Ireland seem to be much sharper than other vacation memories. I think that's because I was totally immersed in the experience, rather than having it diluted a bit by having someone from my own culture by my side. I also came away from it feeling very confident in myself abd what I could do.
I wasn't really bothered by eating alone, and I did eat dinner in a couple of pretty nice restaurants. I figure I could have a very nice meal for half of what it would cost if my husband was along, so I splurged a bit. I did bring a journal and updated it while waiting for my meal - I think this helped quite a bit. Eating alone gets easier the more you do it. I travel a bit with my job, so I think I've gotten used to eating by myself (I usually bring a book in those circumstances, and often skip the hotel restaurant and seek out interesting restaurants in the neighborhood). I have to admit, though, if I was ever refused a table because of being alone, I'd feel very self-conscious and embarassed (although I shouldn't, I know).
The thing that made me feel most uncomfortable, and which I know I'll struggle with again in April, is the pubs. I enjoy listening to live music, and I feel that the pubs are an integral part of a trip to Ireland, but I can't help feeling like people are looking at me oddly when I'm there alone. I didn't have any bad experiences on my last trip, and this might be all in my head, but I know that I'll be nervous again this time around. Not that that's going to stop me - it's just something I'm going to have to deal with. As before, I'll simply make sure I don't drink too much, and be sure than I behave in a "proper" manner so no one gets the wrong impression.
It was a unusual set of circumstances that resulted
in my traveling to Ireland ahead of my husband on my first trip, and I'm
very thankful it happened. Otherwise, I don't know that I would've tried
vacationing alone, and then I never would have realized how much I enjoy
it. I know it's not for everyone, but I'm very glad that I learned it's
definitely for me!
Jaime
Bay Shore, NY USA Wed 02/19/2003
Whenever I travel solo, I always take the train rather than drive.
Not only is it cheaper for a single traveler, but at least half the time
I get to meet other people on the train--backpackers, business travelers,
etc. It helps if you speak other languages, of course.
USA Wed 02/19/2003
I LOVE going solo!!!
I have been to to Europe (actually UK and Belgium) twice and am planning
a 3rd visit. The first time I was there taking college classes (in 1997)
but 99% of my sightseeing was alone and I went by myself last year. I am
a social person however I love the freedom of doing what I want when I want.
I don't have to worry about anyone else's budget, what they don't feel like
eating, or where they want or don't want to go. I am in charge - and you
can always make a friend and day trip with them if you get too lonely. I
met two nice girls at a hostel and spent the day with them. Traveling by
yourself can be a lot of fun!!
Rachel
Atlanta, GA USA Mon 02/17/2003
Just GO!
For those of you afraid of traveling alone, you can do it, just take a little
extra time and prepare yourself. Study each town or location you plan to
visit. If the town is not covered by your book stop by the local office
of tourism they will help you out with english material. Learn about each
town and it will become more interesting for you. Go on the internet to
find out more. Here are some more pointers I learned that may help you:
1) Start reading early (European history, Art History, Rick Steves, etc).
2) Stay in youth hostels if you are alone; you will meet lots of nice people.
3) Try to speak the language (even a lame attempt will win you points).
4) Be overly polite. Even the French will love you and the little old lady that runs the hotel will invite you into her home for dinner.
5) GO! Do not delay; there is no good excuse not to, and no bad time to travel.
6) Maximize your time: the longer you stay, the better it gets. Try to spend several days in each city. Get to know a local and get invited home for a meal of a lifetime.
7) At some point in your vacation you will get homesick, I guarantee it! Do not despair, take a break and stay in one spot for a few days. Try and relax. In a couple of days you will be rejuvenated and ready to go for another 4 months.
8) Break away from tourist areas, find small towns or villages, meet real Europeans not involved with the tourist trade.
9) Stay away from American fast food; try local specialties.
10) Most important is to plan and then pack your
bags and go!
Jonathan
Bend, OR USA Tue 02/11/2003
Solo travel
Pack one of those disposable plastic plates that can be washed, with a sturdy
plastic knife and fork. They don't weigh much or take up much room. Then
when you can't summon up the courage to spend yet another dinner hour eating
alone in public view, get take-out food and eat in your room. Every British
town I've ever been in has at least one Indian and one Chinese take-away,
most of them open late.
Barb
OH USA Thu 02/06/2003
First Solo Trip Greece/Rome
What a great board to read before my first "totally" solo trip this June
2003. I'm spending 8 days on Paros Island, Greece and then five days in
Rome. I would love to find a way to meet fellow travelers for dinner, conversation,
etc., because I tend to be more guarded/shy when on my own and probably
won't meet tons of people like others do. Anyway, if anyone has any recommendations
or suggestions, let me know. This will be my 2nd time in Rome and first
trip to Greek Islands.
Debbie
Alexandria, VA USA Mon 02/03/2003
solo travel
I spent 11 days in France in December and it was wonderful. I rented a car
for four days and drove From Paris through Burgundy and back in a large
circle. How beautiful! French drivers are very courteous! There were some
times that I would have liked someone to make a decision for me, but because
I wasn't with some loud chattering American, I was forced to speak french
and it got easier. I think I blended in better which allowed me to observe
and take more in. The best "Rick Steves" advice I found was to always ask
for the local specialty. I did this in Langres and was exposed to a wonderful
cheese (called Langres).
DLA
Tampa, FL USA Thu 01/23/2003
Solo Travel
It's interesting that so many posts are from solo women. It's interesting
to share their concerns. Here's a guy's perspective. I retired rather early,
and since most of my friends cannot afford the time or the money, I usually
travel alone. I've made at least 8 solo trips all over Europe..and enjoyed
the freedom that being solo provides. Remember that being alone does not
mean being lonely.
When dining, I usually carry a guide book to plan my next day's activities. And avoid fancy dining establishments that appear to host romantic diners. For lunch, there are all sorts of choices from American fast-food joints to local restaurants...but I like Rick's suggestion of getting a baguette, some cheese and s'wich meat and eating on the fly.
Also, instead of a rail pass, I like to rent a car for the greater flexibility it affords. There are pros and cons but its easier to lug your baggage around and sight-see without being on a tight train schedule. It really isn't that much more expensive, and its a lot less hassle...especially in getting back to the airport.
Lately, I've started traveling to Asia. I solo'd it to Hong Kong, Shanghai, Bangkok and surrounding environs, and didn't find the challenges any more difficult than European travel. I don't believe women would find it daunting either. I also visited China, but went with a tour group to cruise the Yangtze River. I went solo but met many nice people on the tour and enjoyed it also. I'm planning another trip to China this summer because I find it a very fascinating and interesting place.
Whether you go solo, or solo with a tour, JUST
DO IT! Don't let apprehensions or fear of being alone stop you from enjoying
this wonderful world.
Lawrence of LaGrange
Chicago, IL USA Thu 01/23/2003
GO!!! GO!!!! GO!!!!
Travelling solo would have to be the way to go. I just came from London,
Amsterdam, Berlin, Prague, Rome, and Paris and was never really alone the
whole time. When I wanted to be alone to sightsee or something I was and
when I wanted to hang with people I did. The Backpacking/Hosteling environment
is great for those travelling alone! I partied with some great people from
Australia, New Zealand, Canada, Singapore, and lots of locals. Its actually
not as difficult meeting people than what you might think. I believe its
easier than traveling with others and trying to meet people. Everyone was
very friendly, kinda like a family environment. I say GO by yourself, even
if you are a bit scared as soon as you get there it all goes away, trust
me I was quite nervous all until I got to my hostel. And definitely don't
set an itinerary or at least be flexible, there are many times when you'll
just meet people and decide to go elsewhere, and definitely take the chance
and be adventurous. If you have any questions just email me. Take care and
good luck!!!!
Vinny Villanueva
USA Thu 01/23/2003
Solo Travel with Disability
I heard there may be an upcoming book on traveling with a disability. I
hope to travel alone or with my grandsons in a few years when I retire.
I am having knee replacement surgery but still want to see Europe. Let me
know when your book is available.
Elaine Price-Cornell
Olds, AB Canada Sun 01/19/2003
So You Go Alone......And?
Oh man! I have always travelled alone. (Yeah, my friends and family think
I'm 'unusual'...) I think that it's no problem for me because I 'did' New
York City by myself at 19; if you can do that town alone, the rest is so
easy! Being a single female, I had no problems when visiting Europe alone
for the first time. I arrived in London, then immediately boarded the Chunnel
to get to Paris. Arrived around 9 p.m at the Gard du Nord, exhausted, nearly
took a taxi but decided to brave the metro instead. Bought my carnet of
tickets, and a kind Frenchman told me what trains to take to get to the
Rue Cler. I arrived in total darkness around ten p.m., and I was the only
one walking on the street.
As I look back on that trip now, I find that what I did was amazing! I've been back to Paris 3 times, once with my mother, who loved it as I do. I've never had ANY trouble there. Went to England, Scotland, N.Ireland, and back to London, where I slept a Lot. People find this amazing, but I work full-time and go to college, so sleeping in is a real treat, especially in a foreign city!
As for dining alone, the only thing I didn't do was brave the pubs. My first night in London I went looking for a place to eat, and when I saw a Pizza Hut I threw up my hands and said, "It's in England!!!" I went there 3 times and had nice little meals every time.
Don't let anyone deter you from going alone. EVERYONE
said, "Oh, I couldn't do it, I'd need my husband, yada yada," and I always
said, "Hey, if women live over there by themselves, I can travel there
by myself!" I talked to many people of all kinds! I would love to return
to London, and have a more positive experience.
CB
Palm Springs, CA USA Sun 01/05/2003
Traveling alone and disabled
I recently finished an 18-day escourted tour of Eastern Europe both as a
single woman and as a woman with physical disabilities. Because of my physical
limitations I could not (and I accepted that) participate in everything
that the rest of the group did and was left by myself more often than would
have been the case. I was used to traveling with my immediate family and
without real physical problems but this time was far different. There was
no one there FOR me BUT me. It is a lot easier to travel as a single woman
than as a single, semi-disabled woman. I used to walk for miles which would
have solved the problem of being left alone so much, but I can no longer
walk very far and stairs are impossible. I did feel vulnerable because the
Eastern European languages are totally foreign to me. I have a Czech background
which is why I went but had no one to share my discoveries with. Having
been a loner my whole life, the single part doesn't bother me as much as
the disability does. I guess I'll go with "Travel for the Disabled" or "for
the Handicapped/Slow Walker" from now on, but frankly, they are sometimes
so general or are covering areas I've already been to so I hope I'm not
bored. At least though I'll get to continue traveling.
Litekeeper
OKC, OK USA Fri 01/03/2003