Women Travelers: 2002
Is it safe for a woman to travel alone in Europe? What are some of the challenges you've faced and how have you dealt with them? Are there places women should not travel alone? How do you stay safe?
Visiting Europe for the First Time
If you are a single woman visiting Europe for the first time, I would recommend
you begin your trip in England, as that enables you to experience things
European without any language barriers, or having to decipher signs you
can't read. The Home Away From Home Club is a membership club which provides
single women who are visiting England with safe, low-cost accommodation
in private bedrooms in a private house. (You even get to pick which room
you want to stay in). Of course, staying in a private house you get to live
life just like the locals, for a true cultural experience. The Club's house
is located in a "back door" town less than one hour from London by train
(very frequent trains), with frequent local buses to the town center & railway
station; it is not necessary to have a car. The Club's accommodation in
Britain is only available to members, so you do have to join and pay the
annual membership fee (currently $20). For a more detailed description,
see my posting on the Graffiti Wall under "Alternative Accommodations." Instead of sharing a hostel room with a different group of strangers every
night, you get to stay in a private bedroom in a private house, at rates
lower than those charged by Youth Hostels.
D. Flurrie
Philadelphia, PA USA Sun 11/17/2002
Traveling Alone
Here I sit, alone, in Vienna....I have had a wonderful 7 days so far! I
was one of those `I could never do that? types until last summer. I spent
one month traveling alone in London and the S of England...It was great!
This year I chose Vienna, at moments notice, too. I did no prep prior but
when I arrived my friends had a copy of Ricks book for me. What a great
tool! I take it with me everywhere and have done aboslutely everything in
it. Incidentally, I do not speak any foreign language (a fact I am NOT proud
of) but with the little page of phrases at the back I have managed well.
So ladies, just relax and try it some time. Pack light, even just a knapsack
if you can, and use your common sense. Never second guess your gut feeling
as it is always right and do not be afraid to ask for help from anyone on
the street. What did Rick say? If you are not having fun just kick yourself
and make it happen.
marjorie
Ca USA Mon 11/04/2002
For women who wear larger sizes
I posted some time ago re travel slacks/skirts for larger sized women. I
have found that Lane Bryant stores are carrying again the Venezia brand
slacks (didn't see any skirts) in black. These stretchy, partially jean-styled
slacks are very comfortable to travel in, have deep front pockets, and look
dressy enough for Paris. The material tends to loosen up after several wearings
so you might want to purchase a size smaller than your usual. I have a 34" inseam and wear a size 18 - these slacks felt and looked great in Paris
and throughout France. I did not see the skirts this time. One pair of these
slacks and one skirt in the same material were enough for 10 days of traveling.
Jana Wallace
Grand Rapids, MI USA Mon 10/14/2002
Watch out for Mike's Bikes tour guides in Barcelona!
I previously posted this comment in the tours section, but i want to make
sure all female travelers get this warning... The afternoon tour was great
and really a lot of fun, but I want to send out a WARNING TO WOMEN who might
be considering meeting the group to go out at night. After hanging out at
a bar and a dance club with the 20 somethings from our tour group, we found
out that the guides had taken this job for the sole purpose of getting in
the pants of young traveling girls. The worst experience of our trip was
worriedly searching the streets of Barcelona for an hour in the wee hours
of the morning until we found our friend close to tears in an alley pushing
the tour guide off of her. I had an opposite experience with the very nice
guides in Paris and have heard good things about the tours in other cities,
but if you do the tour in Barcelona make alternate late night plans, and
warn others in your tour group.
WA USA Mon 10/14/2002
women traveling alone
I have traveled four times by myself to England and never worried about
my safety. I went out at 9:00 at night for dinner and was never hassled.
I did however notice that in some restaurants that single women were essentially
ignored by female food servers! If a single male diner walked in at the
same time a woman did, they practically walked over me to get to the man!
I had to wait forever to be served,while men who came in after me didn't.
the staff were rude and abrupt with me. very interesting treatment,don't
you think?
melissa miller
Oakland, ca USA Sun 10/06/2002
Traveling Solo in Switzerland/Clothing in General
I truly loved my trip to Switzerland, traveling solo for the first time
as a 26-year old. Turns out there was nothing to worry about, everything
went extremely smoothly, didn't have any real problems, and the men were
polite and friendly, interested and charming but very respectful too--I
felt very safe there, safer than in my hometown actually. To add to the
clothing posts: I wish I had brought jeans. Apparently plenty of people
in Switzerland wear jeans, I would have fit right in, and been much warmer
on some days I was there in September. Tried to buy jeans there but they
either didn't fit right or were really expensive. I agree with others to
dress like yourself bur not so sloppily you'll feel self-conscious about
it, don't try too hard to look European. I don't think special travel clothes
are always necessary to purchase, the clothes you love most to wear out
in public at home should be suitable, taking varying climates into account
of course--multiple layers are always a good idea as Europe has many climes,
and night/day high/low altitude variances can be huge. And I wish I had
brought more underwear and socks--a few more pairs wouldn't have taken up
much more space/weight but would have stretched out the washing further.
Rachel
Santa Rosa, CA USA Wed 10/02/2002
Sleeper Cars in Trains
Has anyone else taken an overnight train in a sleeper car and found it a
little bit creepy? I just got back from a trip to France and took a 2nd
class couchette night train from Paris to Toulouse. I was with my (male)
cousin so it didn't bother me too much but I was thinking that I was glad
I wasn't alone. The whole train was absolutely filled with men...young men
hanging around in the hallways and by the bathrooms mostly.
It wasn't too bad just to have to walk by them but my cabin had 4 old
men in it who it was a little harder to ignore (especially as they were
undressing and staring at me the whole time). The only other women I saw
in that car on the train were older and with their husbands.
Camille
Federal Way, WA USA Sat 09/21/2002
Men in Rome
Rome has a very bad name for harrassment of women, but this is largely unmerited.
I've spent much of the past year in the city (I'm foreign, blonde and in
my twenties), and never been seriously hassled.
My tips are:
Luce
Rome, Italy Wed 08/28/2002
women travellers
I recently took my first solo vacation (to Prague), and found it to be the
most rewarding experience of my life. I am 26 years old and my husband had
a lot of concerns for my safety and well being, but neither became an issue
during my stay. I just followed the rules of common sense (staying in well
lit areas, no flashy jewelry, not becoming to intoxicated) relaxed and had
a great time. If any of you girls have any reservations about taking a trip
like this, DON'T! I'm so glad I got over mine, and I"m even planning a second
trip to Prague (alone, again) for this fall.
Jenny
Charleston, SC USA Sun 08/25/2002
Jeans and comfortable clothing!
Another Yeah for Jeans, and comfortable clothing. I bought some "technical
fabric" pants, nylon and this and that, sent them home 2nd place we stayed
in they took up no space but were not comfortable I would have loved to
have had another pair of jeans with me. Wore them everywhere never got a
2nd look. You can still dress casual, smart and clean in jeans.
USA
USA Fri 08/23/2002
Lightweight Jeans...Yes!
I TOTALLY agree with the posts about wearing jeans--I could not live without
them since it's what I always wear at home! I just posted on the "packing
light" page about the new, lightweight, STRETCH jeans. I just had to mention
it here. Give them a try. I used to think stretch jeans were disgusting,
but they are now so modern and for young people, too! They are even more
comfortable than regular jeans because the "give" when you sit down--which
is great when you are on a train or plane for hours. I love them. I bought
a new pair of Levi's women's stretch bootcut jeans in a dark color, and
they are just fantastic! I got them at a Levi's store. They've got a website,
too. Great fit, great style, and sooo comfortable. The fact that they are
lightweight is a plus! The new fabrics are just terrific with the lycra
added to the denim. If you love wearing jeans, do not leave home without
them. I think the best advice given on this page was a few posts below about
wearing what you normally feel comfortable wearing. I used to be stupid
and take all these clothes that I didn't wear at home with me, and guess
what??? I didn't wear them overseas either! Now, it's only my favorites,
and my favorites include my jeans and a leather jacket. Oh, and by the way,
a pashmina shawl (large one) is wonderful to take! You can use it as a blanket
on board, as a scarf around your neck when you're cold, and even as a "wrap"
in the evening at dinner in cold places. It's also "dressy" looking and
really soft and cozy!
USA Thu 08/22/2002
Alone in Amsterdam
Amsterdam is a difficult place for a woman traveling alone who is not interested
in smoking pot. The place was completely inundated with American teens and
20-somethings trying to get as drunk and high as possible which made me
very uncomfortable - especially at night. It would be nice to have some
sort of resource for women traveling alone in Amsterdam to find fellow travelers
for dinner who are interested in other things besides getting wasted and
discussing the industrial used of hemp all night long.
withheld
Chicago, IL USA Tue 08/13/2002
Pack your regular clothes
My comments are about clothing for travel. I freaked out the day before
I left for Europe and Scandinavia and bought a pair of black capris which
were a size too big and hand washable. I decided at the last minute also
not to bring jeans because of the heavy weight and washability. Both of
these choices were a terrible mistake. In photographs, I look like a big
blimp because the pants I brought were too baggy. Everyone is wearing jeans
and jeans jackets - especially in Copenhagen. You will feel like a total
outsider if you do not have denim there. My advice is: Do not buy any clothes
especially for your trip. Wear what you look good in and what you wear all
the time at home. Try everything on before you pack and get an honest friend
to say if you look good. I am super self-critical, but I have to say that
there is nothing worse than a great scenic picture ruined by looking as
badly as I did.
Debbie
Chicago, IL USA Tue 08/13/2002
Going to Bologna, Italy
I'm going to Bologna Italy on the 5th of Aug, I myself am really looking
forward, although I have the usual butterflies thinking about it now! I
have been before and again am travelling alone anc can say that my first
impression of Italy, Rome, was a good one and very very safe too. My advice
would be don't worry but keep your head about you, and then enjoy yourself!
Tim
UK Fri 07/19/2002
Leightweight jeans
In response to NC on the new lightweight denim - yes take it! I took a pair
of lightweight dark denim pants as well as a pair of stonewashed light denim
capris to Europe last September. Italy was really hot, but with the loose
thin capris I was cool and I could get in to all the churches because my
knees were covered. Also, I saw many Europeans wearing jeans. Went everywhere
from Italy to Austria to Switzerland to the Netherlands and even Paris and
London - didn't feel out of place at all. They handwashed great and dried
fast - roll and press them in a towel and they will dry even faster.
J
SF, CA USA Mon 07/15/2002
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SF, CA USA Sun 07/14/2002
Tees & cutoffs
I live in Florida and we don't like seeing Bubba's Rib Shack (cracks me
up!) tee shirts and cutoffs on tourists, either. Maybe to wash the car in,
or use the Bubba shirt to wash the car with. I think that as long as your
clothing is neat, clean, comfortable and modest you can wear what you normally
do (except jeans and white tennies) anywhere in the world. But you know
what I believe are the best things to wear? A smile and a positive attitude.
You'll look brilliant in those everywhere you go.
Ana Maria
St. Petersburg, FL USA Wed 07/10/2002
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San Francisco, CA USA Sat 07/06/2002
Packing for women and comfort!!
I have to agree with Stephanie 100%. I pack both very nice "travel" pants,
usually black, and a skirt. The pants are great for the endless hours of
walking and if you want, in the evening you can slip on the skirt.
CR
Atlanta, GA USA Fri 06/21/2002
Packing and Dressing in Europe
As far as packing like a woman or packing like a man, I really think it
depends on what a woman is most comfortable in. Sightseeing requires seemingly
endless miles of walking and being on your feet and it's important to make
comfort your primary objective when packing. However, it's also important
to look nice. A nice pair of slacks and lightweight blouse are just as chic
and comfortable as a flowing skirt and top. It's a matter of preferance.
You have to remember that when dressing, you're not only trying to respect
the country you're visiting, but also, you're representing your own country.
Wearing a t-shirt from Bubba's Rib Shack w/ cut off shorts may be okay for
Disney World, but an image like that is certainly not one you want to present
when travelling abroad.
Stephanie
Philadelphia, PA USA Thu 06/20/2002
Don Juan alert
I think the important thing to remember, regarding Gayle's "Don Juan" comments
below, is that if anyone contacts you because you "left something behind" by mistake, you should never meet that person except in a very public place,
if in fact you are certain you did leave something behind. The fact that
she met someone else that he did the very same thing to, tells me these
ladies never left anything behind in the first place, it was just a ploy,
and they are both lucky he did not get them alone somewhere!
USA Thu 06/20/2002
Traveling easy
I have to agree with Liz about packing simply. Wearing a skirt is the only
way to be feminine? There's a lot more to it than that, like being courteous,
considerate, knowing the language and so on. And gee, if people in other
nations REALLY only want to interact with you because of a skirt and boots,
well, sorry, I'll pass. I think nice pants and flat shoes for walking show
that you are practical and experienced. I don't mean it as an insult, but
I don't want to interact with people who are only looking at my clothes.
Maybe dressing simply and plainly helps me avoid that AND makes packing
easier. I have never had a problem meeting nice people in Europe. Enjoy
your travels!
Judy
Reading, PA USA Fri 06/14/2002
Female and solo
If you are female and traveling solo, you will never be alone. It is inevitable
that you will meet people. When you travel solo, you just exude an openness
that makes you so much more approachable. You will get hit on, and if there
is a God, you will get your fair share of those guys with rotten teeth and
bad breath trying to go out with you. You'll soon forget these miserable
advances when you get approached by one that is genuinely nice. Despite
the risk, shed any defenses you've put up, and leave yourself open to the
possiblities of meeting great and interesting people who will enhance your
overall travel experience.
marilyn
honolulu, hi USA Thu 06/13/2002
Ladies, go for it and have a great time!! But, a tip or two from my
latest month-long journey: Wear a wedding band whether you are married or
not, just a plain gold/silver/plasic whatever you want band will do. Most
men will still approach you but this way, you can decide who to point out
the band to and who to slip it off while they arent looking for. Also, skirts
are awesome -- cool and appropriate for some of the stricter churches.
USA Wed 06/12/2002
Packing for Women
Libby has the right idea about wearing skirts. Liz may not care whether
she looks feminine while traveling, but I do. I also care about the comfort
factor of skirts over trousers in hot weather. There's no comparison
Jane
Pasadena, CA USA Sun 06/09/2002
Packing as a man?
I am not one to wear jewelry here at home, let alone abroad. I wear only
a wedding ring and for me a watch is even a little too much. And I agree
that it is silly to wear jewelry where it's often just an invitation to
be ripped off. I also agree that you don't want much to weigh you down.
I often travel with only a carry on. Here at home I don't always wear make-up
and enjoy being a real scruff.
What I don't agree with is that we should basically pack the same as men. You see, part of what I like about travel is meeting people. I still remember the night we spent in Italy and met a few very kind, intelligent, helpful men. We ended up spending the next days with them while they helped us see their city and shared their hospitatlity with us. To this day, my friend who was with me, is convinced that these men would not have initally approached us if it weren't for my long skirt and great boots.
I know it sounds silly to some, but you have to
remember that people only have one way of reading you when they first
meet you, and that is (as sad as it can be to say) by how you present
your exterior. And in many European cities or towns, a woman's lack of
external feminity often can put out a message of harshness or the wish
to be left alone. You know the saying, "When in Rome...", you have to
be aware of what your exterior is saying to Romans (not that I would EVER
want to keep up with Roman fashion or style!). But if I seem more approachable
to a person because I am dressed in a more familiar way and all it will
take is packing one skirt and a few ounces of make-up, then fine.
Libby
USA Thu 05/30/2002
Packing for women
Women should basically pack the same as men. This means no dresses, skirts,
high heels, jewelry and "beauty aids." If you are traveling for business
or some other formal function, of course you would need special clothes
for that, and not for a Rick Steves-style trip. But if you will get rid
of all the "silly stuff" that does not weigh men down, like make-up, hair
spray and so on, all you MAY do is look like an American. Jewelry is often
an invitation to theft anyway. Just a watch and a wedding ring, if applicable,
is all the jewelry you need. Remember, Europeans LIVE there and they have
all their fancy things and a whole wardrobe at home. It's okay to look like
an American as long as you respect the culture you are in. Cut your hair
short, wash your face every day and you're good to go. You're not putting
on a fashion show, you're there to soak up Europe. The less encumbered you
are with "stuff," the easier that is.
Liz
Brandon, FL USA Tue 05/28/2002
Traveling in Vernazza
Traveling solo in Italy recently was my first and my BEST! A great way to
meet new friends and travel at your own pace. Ladies who are traveling either
solo or togeter in Vernazza should be careful of a "Don Juan" who introduced
himself initially as Valerio. Working at one of the restaurant's along the
inlet, I happened to have dinner there and left a 50,000 lire note as a
tip by mistake. He somehow found the room where I was staying and called
to inform me. Of course, I was very appreciative and went downstairs to
retrieve it. He then told me he would share the history of Vernazza with
me over a glass of wine. Before the glass was half empty, he made an advance
which I politely declined. He became agitated and we immediately went our
separate ways. Interestingly, the next day over cappuccino, another woman
shared a similar story. During the conversation, we realized he hit on both
of us on the same night! No harm was done, but it did leave both of us feeling
very uncomfortable and a little disappointed that he would use Rick Steves'
name and alliance as an introduction to his ploy.
Gayle
Denver, CO USA Mon 05/20/2002
Thanks, Amy!
I had posted several months ago that I had worn a cubic zirconia wedding
ring to discourage thieves. Well, in reading Amy's post below, I agree with
her that the thieves can't tell the CZ from a diamond without a jeweler's
loupe. I'm going to London and Paris with my daughter next month, and I
will not be wearing any jewelry at all except an inexpensive watch and some
earrings. I'm a jewelry hound, so this will be a stretch for me, but I totally
agree with Amy's comments below. Thanks, Amy!
Ana Maria
St. Petersburg, FL USA Sun 05/12/2002
Travel solo is fun - just yourselves educated before you go
I traveled solo to London and Paris for a week each late last year. I just
returned from a two-week trip to Italy, again, traveling solo. Before I
went, I read about the ?dangers and annoyances? of each place and took the
necessary precautions. In addition to Rick Steves? guidebooks, I also read
other guidebooks and the ?Tourist Scams? graffiti wall on this website.
In other words, I try to learn as much as I can. My trips were very enjoyable.
Because I was prepared, I did not have any unpleasant encounters. My advice
to those who are thinking of going alone but are nervous: get educated,
know the scams, take the necessary precautions, use common sense and then
relax and enjoy yourselves! In response to some previous postings regarding
wedding rings, I wear a plain wedding band (with emphasis on ?plain?). I
leave my diamond engagement ring at home. I would strong discourage wearing
a cubic zirconia ring as thieves may not be able to tell a fake diamond
from a real one. You will be attracting unnecessary attention. A plain wedding
band (real or fake) tells the men and thieves to leave you alone.
Amy
Oakland, CA USA Fri 05/10/2002
Solo in Amsterdam and Paris
I just returned from my first "real" solo trip to Amsterdam and Paris and
had a memorable time. Men were "friendlier" to me in Amsterdam. I appreciated
using Rick's books as guides as they were extremely helpful in planning
my journey before and during the trip. I recommend staying in centrally
located hotels so you can either walk or be close to the local transportation.
I was very pleased with Hotel Krasnapolsky in Dam Square in Amsterdam (5
star hotel, not listed in Rick's book and I wanted to splurge based on other
friend's recommendations) and in Paris, Ile St Louis, Hotel Jeu De Paume-
wonderful!!! Now that I've completed this successful journey, I am very
anxious to plan another solo trip to the south of France and Venice.
Jane
San Francisco, CA USA Wed 05/08/2002
A SBF solo in Europe
I am a SBF who has been to Europe 4 times, thrice on escorted tours! I have
never been to Europe alone as an independent except when I took the train
from Amsterdam to Brussels at the end of my last trip with Contiki; the
experience was not what I thought it would be (I had been afraid I'd get
questioned for some paranoid reason). I am considering returning to Europe
this October but am loath to take another escorted tour. But I'm also nervous
about traveling on my own.
Carmen Smith
Charlotte, NC USA Sat 04/27/2002
Travel Alone
Go for it! I went to Europe solo for the first time ever in July of 2000.
I was a little hesitant at first about the idea, but didn't want to have
to follow a regimented tour schedule or the hassles that sometimes come
with traveling companions. After checking out several guide books and asking
coworkers, and friends about their travels in Europe I was able to gather
enough information about where to go, and what to see. I ended up spending
3 weeks touring through Holland, Belgium, Luxembourg, and southern Germany.
I can speak a bit of German so felt the most comfortable there, but no matter
where you go there are friendly people who will speak English and help you
out when asked politely.
As far as safety goes, there were only a couple of times I felt uneasy.
Once in Haarlem Holland - some fella high on - ? - told me in four languages
that he was going to kill me if I didn't talk to him. I just threw up
my hands as if I didn't understand him and kept on walking. Luckily he
just swore and disappeared down an alley. The second time I was the only
other passenger in a train car headed from Steinach to Frankfurt and felt
a bit uneasy due to the frantic pacing and muttering of the disturbed
gentleman in the car with me. Easy solution - switch cars! There is so
much to see, so don't let the lack of a traveling companion prevent you
from making the trip!
V. Schiller
Manitoba, Canada Mon 03/04/2002
Bracelets and making friends
My hobby is making beaded jewelry, and it has served me beautifully while
traveling. Before I go anywhere, I load up on dozens of bracelets that I
make myself out of beads and elastic thread. Each bracelet costs me no more
than fifty cents for materials, and most take only a few minutes to string
together.
When going out for the day, I put a dozen or more of them on each arm, with the goal of coming home bracelet-less. My daughter and I actively look for people who look like they could use a gesture of friendship; store clerks, waitresses, cleaning staff in hotels, elderly folk, whoever. We learn enough of the native vernacular to tell the person that this bracelet is a gift, and that we want to make their day a little brighter, and that we appreciate sharing their home town. We never, ever accept money in return for a bracelet.
What we get is even better: delighted surprise, hugs, and tears of joy from people who aren't used to friendly tourists in general. By late summer, the local people working in the tourist trade are burnt out from all the demands made upon them, and even a little gesture makes them feel a lot better.
The most fun is when we return, sometimes several
years after making the initial contact. I'm often greeted in strange places
by someone on the street happily announcing, "It's the bracelet lady!"
and giving me the long lost family member treatment. I've seen my bracelets
years later, treated as treasured objects. It's an incomparable feeling.
You might not be a bracelet person, but the concept can be transferred
to many things: little national flag pins, postcards from your home town
or little bags of M&Ms. People are so happy to have their hard work recognized
that even the tiniest gesture brings incredible rewards.
Kathy N-V
Boston, MA USA Sat 02/23/2002
Solo Women Travelers and "Blending"
I've travelled many times to Europe, often solo, and sometimes with my travel
buddy/daughter. We always have a wonderful time, and we've taught more than
a few Europeans that the "Ugly American" myth is just that. We've never
been accosted by unwanted male attention. No one has robbed us or even tried,
in dozens of trips, anywhere and everywhere.
We do our best to "blend" with the locals, and show respect to everyone. Instead of a day pack, I usually carry a cloth shopping bag, available for under a dollar in almost any supermarket. In it, I carry a liter of the local water and some fruit, and a cheapie disposable camera. We also grab a couple of business cards with our hotel's address on them, just in case we get lost and need to take a cab back to "home base."
My daughter and I dress like locals as well, and why not? Obviously, locals are dressed in a manner that is comfortable and appropriate for the weather and culture. A basic black tee shirt dress purchased at home can be dressed up with scarves and costume jewelry purchased in Europe. Don't forget something to cover your head if you're going into places of worship as a sign of respect, even if it isn't a hard and fast rule.
Dresses are more practical than jeans in many places: pit toilets, places of worship, and are cooler than jeans. Also, it's much easier to access a money belt under a dress. I wear Birkenstocks or walking shoes in leather. They're more comfortable, and look better with a dress. I always wear a plain gold wedding band. Any other jewelry I'm wearing is obviously cheap and fake.
We learn at least a survival level of the local language wherever we go. A few weeks before every trip, we break out the foreign language cassettes and practice our rusty French and Spanish, just in case. It also makes the trip seem closer and more exciting.
We leave the tourist maps out of sight. A guide book can be tucked into a shopping bag, but those big maps are like a flashing neon billboard to people preying on tourists. I familiarize myself with our route in private -- even if I have to consult a map in the ladies room.
Finally, we wear our best smiles and share them
with everyone we meet. Mothers with children often get a lot more assistance
and respect than they do in the States, and polite families are usually
welcome everywhere.
Kathy N-V
Boston, MA USA Sat 02/23/2002
Paris for solo women.
I just got back from my second trip to Paris in one year. I am 55 years
old and decided I could do it on my own. I thank God I did. Contrary to
what many think, the Parisians are very friendly and kind. I forced myself
to dig deep into my high school french and it really paid off. Don't be
afraid to go out in the evening. Just be sensible about metro and taxi's.
I discovered that many buses stop running at 8:30 pm, so plan on taxis.
I love Paris so much that I am looking for a small apartment to rent in
the 7th. eme for one year beginning March 2003. Life is short. You only
live once. Go for it!
Suzanne Dowling
Seattle, USA Wed 02/20/2002
Drying wet socks
One of the best things you can find in a hotel/B&B room is one of those
hair dryer attached to the wall. Not to dry your hair, but to dry socks
you just washed. Just stick the nozzle into the socks neck and let her rip.
Be careful that it doesn't over-heat. Your socks will be nice and dry in
under 5 minutes.
Darcy
Philly, PA USA Wed 02/20/2002
Ireland - Walking
I love the Country Walkers catalogue also - but use it for ideas - (you're
right! It's expensive!) A low cost way of hiking in the UK is to get the
BAA walking tour book - it's a 3 ring binder with each page being a detailed
walk with very accurate directions and comments on the wildlife and history
of things you walk past...it includes laminated pocket sheets to make sure
your pages stay dry - I bought the book, planned the walks, took just those
pages, and then my mom & I rented a car, stayed at B&B's and did the walks
during the day...a much more reasonable way to see the countryside and we
had a SUPER time! Good luck! Have fun!! (I do hope you go - even if you
go alone - you will have such a fabulous time!)
Beth
Baltimore, USA Fri 02/15/2002
traveling in a 3rd world country alone
i have always traveled with others until last summer i went to nepal for
3 weeks by myself. it is a very depressed nation and i don't speak but a
few words of nepali, but i felt very safe and protected the entire time.
just speaking my few words brought such smiles and willingness to help from
the locals. i spent time traversing the country in backward places, yet
everywhere i went i found that politeness, friendliness, and smiles always
did the trick. if there was not someone there with a little english that
could help me, they would search until they found one for me. it was awesome
to stretch myself in this way - and it was so rewarding i am planning to
go back in 2 months. i would suggest that anywhere you travel, learn all
you can about the culture, the people and a bit of the language and you
will be able to cross any cultural barrier that you find. use your savvy
with being out after dark and sizing up strangers - but don't let fear keep
you from having the time of your life. and i never wear any jewelry (even
my wedding ring) in a depressed nation - the difference is obvious enough
with my blond hair and pale skin - but do all you can to bridge the gap
between yourself and the people you are surrounded by. enjoy!
diane
west sacramento, ca USA Mon 02/11/2002
Hungary - Response to Loren
Loren - I spent over two weeks alone in Hungary last summer. Used a Frommer's
guide - don't waste your money! Their "walks" were very inaccurate. If you
stay in Budapest, many people know English. Good place to stay is the Charles
Apt. Hotel which has very large rooms with an efficiency kitchen, etc. Their
web site is: www.charleshotel.hu The reception staff speak English and it's
reasonable - I think. I didn't have any problems even in the evening but
I also used good sense. In fact, I love the country and will go back as
soon as I can! Hope you a great time!
Margaret
Upland, CA USA Sat 02/09/2002
Day Pack
I used a small Eagle Creek convertible daypack with hip belt. The hip belt
makes a difference for shorties like me. There was room for everything in
there, but I carried it as empty as possible, except for water and easily
replaceable item. I carried my camera in my hand, or inside pocket. It folds
into a fanny pack, and I used it as a shoulder bag that way, when I didn't
need a backpack. Not elegant, not suitable for making a grand impression,
but also not very tempting to thieves. When in buses, subways, and other
crowded areas, I just shifted it to the front, straps on my shoulders, and
the hip belt locked on the side. Looks silly, but most European travelers
carry their backpacks in front. In short, an unstructured daypack, light
enough to make it worth carrying in your backpack, and big, although you
want to start the day with a nearly empty pack.
Linda
Carlsbad, CA USA Mon 01/28/2002
For Katherine, Daypack.....
Katherine, As far as a daypack, Rick Steves sells them here at the site.
I would recommend that you get a small one that does go across your person.
I received a little day pack (Ricardo Beverly Hills). It has 2 nice size
sections for things such as a jacket, book, snacks, etc.; a place for your
cell phone or sunglasses; and a place for a 12 oz water bottle. It has a
shoulder strap that you can adjust to wear across your person. You can find
this daypack at Robinsons May.
Actually, I tend not to carry anything that is not necessary. I purchased
a vest to carry my needed items in. You can find these well-made 5 pocket
vests at www.travelinvest.com. They are a bit expensive, but well worth
the price. I would not travel without it. I highly recommend that you
buy a moneybelt. Have a great trip.
Robertina
San Diego County, CA USA Sun 01/27/2002
Solo traveling
I love traveling solo, I see what I want to see, sit and enjoy the sun when
I want to and meet so many people it's almost hard to comprehend traveling
with others! I have made many friends at hostels and inns that I have revisited
again and again. Traveling solo is the best. Oh yes, I am 50+ and have been
traveling solo since I was 18 and will continue to travel solo for the next
50 years!!! Just use your normal street smarts when in the large cities
and don't be afraid to ask questions in your "horrible attempts in a different
language". The natives will only appreciate your efforts all the more. Be
polite and you will have a great time.
Betty
Chicago, IL USA Thu 01/24/2002
A Priests note to women about Convents
I am NOT female;I am a priest, however I thought some of the ladies might
like to be aware of this opportunity. Friends of mine who are in the convent
are always pleased to welcome guests. In Italy, and some other countries,
females may stay at convents, men of course at the monastary. Be prepared
for spartan surroundings, rules, and a delightful opportunity to see our
country from a differnet perrspective. PLAN AHEAD, WRITTEN REQUESTS AND
CONFIRMATION ARE USUALLY REQUIRED. This might be an opportunity to save
some ladies some money. Donations are always welcomed and put to good use.
If you need a convent list some are on the web, or contact your local priest,
or call Vatican Information Service. Just wanted to help
Father Christian
Vatican Rome Italy Sun 01/13/2002
Magellan's
Sorry Nan that you had a bad experience with them, but I love them! Yes,
some of their items are pricey, but I've found they are worth it. I've never
bought clothes from them, but two things they have that I love are a 'Brush
Buddy' and a 'Pack It Up' videotape that totally revolutionized the way
I pack! The Brush Buddy is a little two piece gizmo that adheres to a mirror,
allowing your toothbrush to air dry; no more setting it down where there's
no room, and more sanitary too!
USA Thu 01/10/2002
10 day trip in March
My daughter is studying in London this spring and I plan to visit her to
travel during her 10 day Spring Break in March. She will use 3 and 4 day
weekends to do short trips, but we can't decide what to do with our 10 days.
It is still a very short time and we know better than to try to go to too
many places. Considering the weather and the proximity to Easter, the break
is over on Palm Sunday, does anyone have any suggestions. We are considering
Italy, Greece, or Vienna and Salzburg, but are open to any suggestions.
We have previously spent time in Switzerland, Spain, Great Britain,and Scotland.
Thank you for any suggestions.
Cathy Clark
Asheboro, NC USA Wed 01/09/2002
Girls!! Do what Rick Says When Traveling Alone
Picture this--1994-- A 50 year old woman reading 'Europe through the Back
Door", as though it were a novel, cover to cover many times. Just like in
the movies, sent for a passport, bought the airline ticket, sent for a 4
country rail pass, and flew into Germany. Never been outside the U.S. nor
ever traveled alone, didn't speak the languages, or know a soul. After the
first day of attitude adjustments and mailing home everything unnecessary,
I felt I had come to visit long, loved places that I had visited before.
What was accomplished that first trip, in those 23 days, was, and still
is a life enhancing event!! Rick Steves' genius for travel, and understanding
what all humans have in common, allowed me and many others like me to expand
our little way of living and thinking into what has grown into this awareness
and love of travel.
Susan Milligan
Punxsutawney, PA USA Mon 01/07/2002
Teen girls in europe
My very best friend and I are already planning a trip to london, paris and
scotland for 2005. In that year she will be 18 and i will be 17. I have
traveled to paris with her before (with parents) and i would trust her with
my life. We both speak french. Do you think we could get along on a VERY
limited budget for around 3 weeks? Also, a sort of off topic question-are
those britrail passes worth it if we plan to travel from london to glasgow
and around scotland by train? THanks alot-email please!
Alice
Wilmington, DE USA Sun 01/06/2002
Ireland walking
I would like to hear experiences of anyone who has ever done a lower cost
walking tour of Ireland. People have recommended Countywalkers to me but
their costs are very high ($2500 US dollars for only 7 days!!). Does anyone
know of any reputable company for walking a single female traveler who loves
to hike can join?
Karen
USA Sun 01/06/2002
Paris, Italy alone
I am in the process of planning a trip (alone) in March to Paris, Venice,
Milan, and Rome. I would appreciate any advice on places not to go alone
in those cities and suggestions on traveling alone between those cities
i.e. rail or fly? I have traveled extensively throughout US alone and now
would like to do Europe. Your advise is much appreciated!
Jreich
Seattle, WA USA Wed 01/02/2002